FET

[unknownscot]

I am due my FET this month - any tips?

I'm on CD1 so will begin Fyremadel and Progynova on CD3 with a scan on CD11.
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Hiya @unknownscot - I'm about to have my second FET this week.

The best advise I can give you, and this is based on my experience, is that just to carry on life as normal. I can be so chilled one minute, then the next minute just anxious as hell! Thats because of the anticipation creating anxiety, not knowing the outcome.

My first FET I for some reason felt like I had to "rest" as I was worried to over do myself and ruin things. Well it made things worse for me, probably made my anxiety worse!

So this time I've been doing what I would usually do, the lockdown way. Cleaning house top to bottom, going for long walks, and just sort of trying to push it to the back of my mind.

I know everyone is different, so all that might sound completely the opposite of what you'd hoped haha! My first every transfer was fresh, I did myself in with work, because my job is sometimes pretty "on the go" (I work in office facilities so was always up doing something, walking to and from train stations etc) and my bosses at the time were shit and just didnt care! So I didnt allow my body to do it's thing.

The first FET(Referred to above) was in lockdown and I was so scared of what happened before that I relaxed too much I think! So this time I've just tried to "do me" if you know what I mean. Make sure I'm comfortable with everything that I'm doing and if I am doing too much, take a break. Luckily I'm working from home so I hope I never have an experience like my first again.

If you have any other questions let me know :) Sorry that I've reenabled on so much! xx

Goodluck @unknownscot - hope it goes well for you. I would echo @Dot457 and say to be as relaxed and ‘normal’ as possible. Do what feels right - no way is right or wrong and positive results come from both. If you want to take it easy do. If you want to continue as normal - do. Time will prob feel like it’s dragging - so it’s good to keep occupied!

Sorry to barge in on your thread - but @Dot457 can I ask you about your periods following your failed FET? Was your second bleed (the one after the bleed having stopped the meds) delayed by much! Did it take long to get back on track? I had a failed FET in October and wondering when bleeds will become regular again.

I hope this time is successful for you.

Hello @AutumnHoping - to be honest my periods are pretty irregular normally. However it’s been really odd since my last FET. Basically I had my full bleed after FET in august which I don’t really count as a period, I feel like it’s my body flushing everything out. I then expected to have a period in October (I’m normally every other month) but I actually did have a bleed in September which was odd for me, it last about 10 days, but the weird thing is normally I am so heavy and doubled over in pain. It didn’t get to the stage at all, it was just very light brown and just not really anything If that makes sense. I was frustrated as I really wanted to do my next FET as soon as I was able to, so I thought that I wouldn’t have a period until November. Mid to end of October came and I had a full on period, but it took about 3-4 days to get “full flow” so it was touch and go wether this period would have been acceptable to go for FET luckily it was.

So sorry as that’s probably not helped you because I’m a bit complicated like that haha. Do you normally have regular periods?

Thank you, good luck with your next go too 🙂 how many frozen ones do you have? Xx

Thanks for replying @Dot457. I suppose it shows that they still be messed up from whatever normal has been. I’m pretty regular so not massively late yet - but reading online suggests it can be up to 40 days for the second bleed. I guess I thought because you’re on a lot less meds for FET and you bleed within days of stopping the meds that there would be no lasting effects.

I haven’t even had my consultation yet to discuss my failed cycle so not looking likely for starting again this year unfortunately. I have 4 left - but the first one defrosted last time failed and I had to defrost another - so potentially only 2 goes left. Who knows. It’s all such a lottery really.

Glad you were able to start again - I’m so impatient I hate waiting for appointments. And bleeds lol

@AutumnHoping - No worries at all!

To be honest I was that fed up with all the waiting I've done over the past couple of years that I tried to push it to the back of my mind and get on with my life as much as covid allowed, so I was shocked when I'd actuall had two periods since transfer. I also had a consultation around a month after we found out the cycle had failed, so maybe you could look into that with your clinic?

I'm the exact same, normally so impatient, so I think it was me that actually called up to book in for a follow up appointment. The thing I've found the hardest about this whole IVF journey is having patience, when I dont have it on a normal day haha. I just feel like I have nothing to show for the past couple of years, feels like you put your life on hold a bit doesnt it.

Hopefully it's all worth it though xx

@Dot457 completely feel you. It takes so much time. And feels like pointless appointments to get going. My follow up consultation is next week. 7 weeks from my failed cycle. I booked it immediately and that was the earliest i could get. I am almost sure they won’t change my protocol so I tried to skip it saying I would just start again as before but they were having none of it. So I expect further waiting after the consultation 🙄 I’m private and I think with covid they’re busier with nhs patients transferring over so waiting times are much bigger than before. Such a pain.

Where are you on this cycle now? Waiting for your first scan?