Chemical miscarriage

[LJM83]

Hi all - today, at my 6 week scan after a BFP following FET, I found out I'd had a chemical pregnancy. I'm gutted but trying to remain positive - has anyone found themselves in the same situation as me? Any advice? Success stories?

TIA x

Hi I didn’t have it that late but at my blood test after ET was somewhere between negative and positive. Had second blood test and the hormone levels were the same. Dr said I’d had a chemical pregnancy and that I would get my period. I was really upset but the dr said to take it as a good sign that I could get pregnant. He said the most likely reason for the chemical pregnancy not continuing was a chromosomal abnormality which wouldn’t have ended in full term pregnancy. Not really what you want to hear but I took it as a positive. I’m just about to get a blood test for pregnancy on my latest ivf cycle so I’m hoping it will have been successful. Try to take the positives that you can get pregnant and I hope that your next cycle is more positive.

@Kirmcd
Thank you for your message - I have read about taking the positive by focusing on the fact that I can actually get pregnant (I do already have a DD, conceived naturally, but she is nearly 6.5 and I hadn't had a positive since her, despite trying for nearly 4 years).
Best wishes for your blood test x

@LJM83 so sorry to read this. Your story is similar to mine. I have a 5 year old little boy naturally conceived in 9 months and since him we can’t get pregnant but have had 3 losses all through Ivf in the last year an a half. It’s heartbreaking but we’ve just done another cycle now and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant but I’m absolutely panicking incase it happens again. Trying my best to relax. Do you have any FETs left? Xx

Hey @Mctm123 thank you for commenting.
It's so difficult isn't it, my DD was conceived with no issues at all and we naively thought that would be the same 2nd time round. Now we're facing a rather large age gap (if we are lucky enough to have a second) and that concerns me - my husband says it shouldn't and isn't an issue for him at all, but I just can't help it.
How early have your losses been? My clinic asked me yesterday if I'd done just one or numerous tests - I had only done 1 as thought testing frequently would drive me even more insane. If I do get a BPF again I think I will test more frequently.
Congrats on your BPF - it's such a shame that it can't be as exciting for you as it should be, it's so unfair 😞 hopefully this is your time. I'm wishing you lots of luck.

I have 1 frozen left and hope to have trf in January - I live on an Island and have to travel to the UK for treatment and if I had a Dec trf I'd be in isolation (bloody Covid!) for Christmas, which obvs isn't an option x

Yeah I can really relate to all of that. The age gap thing bothered me too as I really wanted another straight away. But to be honest, now I just want a baby regardless of the age gaps and I’ve tried to look at the benefits in terms of my little boy being settled in school which means time for me and a potential newborn, plus he’s so caring and loves babies so he would really get involved and help out, I think (maybe naively) there would be less sibling rivalry and I have some friends who have big age gaps and they make it work and it looks lovely so I have come round to the idea more now (well I’ve had no choice!) my partner is the same as your husband though, he has always said he doesn’t care about the age gap but we let these things bother us don’t we. All of my losses have been between 5-7 weeks but I haven’t known till I’ve got the scan as not all of them I had big bleeds for. It was more the lack of symptoms that made me doubtful and I was proven right. Even now I’m questioning if I feel pregnant yet but it’s so early I have to keep having a word with myself. And I have been testing every day for the last 4 days, it’s only today I haven’t as I’m now gonna test every other day and I know they tell you not to but I will be! I’d rather be prepared if it was to go wrong. As you say, it’s terrible how I can’t feel excited and I don’t think I’ll ever relax now. I’m just trying to distract myself and keep busy I suppose. That’s crazy what you said about have to isolate at Xmas! I would wait till January too in that case then. Wish you the best, at least that way you can have a relaxing Xmas and start a fresh in the new year, good luck xxx

This happened to me after my last transfer. I found out at 7 week scan that it was a chemical. Like you, I only tested once because I didn't want to drive myself mad with line comparisons. Turns out I probably should have, as the meds we take after IVF mask a miscarriage. The meds would stop any bleeding etc, so you wouldn't know if it were a chemical as there would be no signs, it just wouldn't progress. I didn't realise this and was expecting a bleed if things went wrong. Turns out the only way to know if it's progressing whilst on meds, is repetitive testing and following line progression. Urgh.

@Mctm123 ah - I'm glad I've found someone who understands my concern and is a similar situation. I do manage to convince myself that the age gap thing isn't an issue but it just keeps creeping back into my mind. Most of the time, like you, I really just want a sibling for my daughter - regardless of the age gap. I also know that had I had two even vaguely close together I prob would have found it very challenging. We are both very lucky to have one and I really know that.

You need to try and remain positive but also, for self preservation, be realistic and that sucks. Wishing you all the luck - I hope it all works out for you this time. I'll be back on the IVF wagon in the NY......joy! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Cleozeta thank you so much for your comment. I didn't realise that about the medication until yesterday, I kept feeling relieved when I wiped (sorry TMI!) and there was no blood. Stupid me to think this process couldn't be any harder than it is!!

I guess another lesson learnt for next time!