Accepting infertility

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Hi ladies. I'm just looking for some advice from those who have came to accept infertility. I have two children from a previous relationship which my husband and I absolutely adore. Unfortunately after trying for four years it has been clarified it's very unlikely to conceive one together naturally. After deep conversations and thoughts we have decided we don't wish to have IVF, for a number of reasons. The reason I'm posting is because I would love to hear from those in a similar situation, I'd like to know does the disappointment of a period arriving get easier over time? Do you learn to accept it? We feel so blessed to have children, my husband is surprisingly more accepting than me, and feels incredibly lucky to be a stepdad ( my kids are 9 and 6 and we have been together 5 years ) we Just want to enjoy the life we have with our two incredible children. I really hope someone can shed some light on how to move forward without feeling there is a little part missing. I hope this doesn't come across in any way ungrateful x

Hi there sorry I can't offer you any advice but I would like to hear from other people too I am suffering from secondary infertility and I think that like you I may have to accept soon that it isn't going to happen for us 😕

Also have secondary infertility - it is horrible isn’t it? Had Ashermans and a lot of miscarriages prior to DS, high risk pregnancy which was very traumatic, and have now discovered that the reason I haven’t conceived since DS was born, is because the Asherman’s is back (presumably due to the c-section), plus other uterine issues.

I’m 41, with a high FSH, so chances are not looking good. It is really upsetting - if only I had known about the Asherman’s one year, two years ago, but I have wasted so much time TTC when there was no chance of it working. It is very hard to accept.

Hi! Accepting infertility is really hard! For me I kind of blame myself a bit for my life choices (I was in a longterm relationship, he didn't want to have children, I wanted and I thought that he would change his mind when the time would come...he didn't! I got older, we broke up, and then I learned that it's nearly impossible for me to conceive. )
For the past year, I have kinda searching and asking about ivf, but I had in my mind that I wouldn't do it.
Now, I think I accept my infertility and decided that I am definately going to start ivf.
Going from the sadness, the blaming, the weird emotions to acceptance AND moving forward wasn't easy, but I had a good support system (friends and family) that I could lean on.
It takes time, patience, savouring each and every moment, and at some day you will start feeling a bit better. I hope this can be a bit helpfull.