Coping with failed IVF, again

[Rollypops]

Hey guys,

We are coming to the end of round 2, I'm 7dp5dt (morula transferred) negative test. We had 9 eggs collected, only 3 fertilised, 1 slow growing morula by day 5, nothing to freeze, our 1st round ended exactly the same. 5 egg collected, 1 embryo n a BFN.
Just wondered how people cope with reoccurring failures and if they have any advice on how to come to terms with this may never happen.
How do you know when enough is enough? Tbh, I just feel like I don't really wana be here anymore and just want this pain to end. Don't know how to cope with it. What do you do if all you have ever wanted in life is to be a mum?
Thanks for any advice xx

Hi OP
I have no real answers as currently also trying to cope with failure of ivf. However accepting that ivf with my own eggs was not an option and moving on to donor eggs next month has given me some more hope. I realise DE are not for everyone though. Xx

@Rollypops really sorry. It’s so so hard. My second round also failed (it’s was my third transfer after also having a FET). That cycle went similar to yours actually. I decided to try another cycle, even though I wasn’t convinced it would work, and it did! The clinic tried a different stimulation drug and it must have helped. I also ate lots of protein.
If you do decide to stop now, then hopefully with time things become easier. It’s such a horrendous thing to go through when it doesn’t work.
Good luck

Hi @Rollypops I’m similar but 3 failed rounds down. I have decided to get fertility counselling to help me cope better. I’m not ready to give up yet but I need some help and coping mechanisms. Like another poster I have also been thinking and processing the potential for donor eggs. I find having a plan helps also so I’ve researching different clinics or techniques to try. It’s not easy.

Just want to give you a hug ... it is not easy

@Rollypops - So sorry for you :( I am in a similar position too. Last week I got a BFP from 2nd round IVF (private) but this week hcg levels dropped. So at 5 weeks I am waiting for natural MC.
i don't want to give you false hopes but 7dp5dt is probably a little early to test too. So test again in 3-4 days.
At the moment I am researching to see what can be done in my situation. That's helping me to cope. I am thinking to try one more round before stopping and hence researching clinics in UK and abroad.
Sending you lots of hugs.