How to best support someone on IVF

[anicebag]

Looking for some guidance on what to do/say or not to do or say for a relative on this path. Thanks

It depends on the person. I like talking about it and being asked how I am, but others hate it.

Don't say things like "you could always adopt".

I've been sent flowers when it's not worked before but I then feel guilty people are spending their money on me and that they'll feel obliged to do it every time (which they don't, so I shouldn't worry about it)! I do think it's very kind though.

Follow their lead.

Ivf is hard, ivf in a pandemic is soooo hard

Thanks seven. Yes I totally get that the pandemic makes it so much harder. I will always ask her if shes ok to talk about it if I ask. Thank you.

Different people has different ways.... if you are close to that person you can ask them what they prefer? Tell them you will always be thinking of them and they can talk to you if they need it. Tell them that you would probably want to check on them but wonder whether they would like it or not?

Just dont say "relax, dont worry, dont stress" type of stuff because it is impossible to stay relaxed. That is annoying ... i know that from my own ongoing ivf experience 😊