Trying to find positivity in my situation

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Hi, I am childless not by choice and will eventually have no family. Unfortunately, it is just how life has worked out and I am 46. I do believe in looking on the bright side of things, but I am really struggling to see anything good for the future at the moment. My health is not good which limits a lot and I am looking after an elderly parent 24/7. I do volunteer a lot.

I would really appreciate if those with families could offer me from their perspective some pros of my position so that I can concentrate on that rather than getting scared about the prospects of a lonely future. I get that i should have more freedom, but caring responsibility, health issues and because of that little money mean that choices are not as broad as they might seem. Just looking for some positive perspective. I am not feeling sorry for myself, but when in the mess it can be hard to be objective. TIA.

Hi OP I'm not sure if the infertility forum is where you will get the advice you want as many on here are still chasing the families they dream about so won't be able to give you the pros to your situation you are after?

There was a long running group called Uber barrens who may be able to help but again I don't know if those members are at the point in that they can see the pros without feeling sadness about their own situations?

I'm also afraid there will be child free by choice MN users that may also hijack this thread to extol the virtues of not having children which won't be appropriate on an infertility board

I suppose in terms of "pros to your position" there is the freedom which comes from not having children/families such as the ability to be able to do what you want/when you want/how you want? Your time is your own and also your money?