Should I just delete Facebook??

[Youngatheart00]

...possibly also instagram.

Really not exaggerating when i say that it seems like at least once a month for the past few years a friend of member of my family (I have a lot of cousins and so does DH!) announces they’re pregnant. Scan pictures, birth announcements, baby pictures, baby showers (when they were allowed!)

It’s got to the point where I see a post and it really does give me a sucker punch and ruin my day.

Would I be wrong to delete social media....I’m not sure if it will make me feel more or less isolated. I know no ones posts are aimed at me but a lot of people know about our infertility problems and it seems no one even thinks to text first or announce more sensitively. It’s making me so angry with the world

I deleted social media last year for a few months for the same reasons but not just pregnancy announcements just general posts about how amazing family life is or how tiring it is, sometimes it just gets too much and I feel pressure to like people's posts who know our situation as I think they will think I'm being funny or bitter if I don't, it was easier do just delete for a few months as I was really struggling with my mental well-being

We had our first failed IVF back in June

Sorry, clicked post to soon

And straight away I turned my phone off for a few days, the habit of looking on social media and seeing those types of post was too much when I was feeling really low

Sorry to hear about your failed cycle 😞

We will be embarking on our third in about 6 weeks time but prospects aren’t too good. Feel like social media just brings up so many negative emotions that can’t be healthy. I check it on auto pilot though so that’s why I think I’d be better off deleting.

I completely understand your problem. I don't want to sound bad but I have just unfollowed most of the people on there. I unfollow anyone pregnant or who I expect might get pregnant, anyone who feels like sharing the fact they attended a baby shower or something like that and everyone who wants to share how amazing parenthood is (the recent 'motherhood challenge' led to me getting rid of many 'friends' ). I also changed my settings to get no baby related advertisement. My news feed is now lovely with mainly cooking/baking and DIY videos and a few friends sharing really interesting stuff. I still get the notifications to wish happy birthday to everyone and if I feel up for it I go to people's profiles and catch up with their stuff. I thought about deleting it all together but I know I'll miss it- so for now the unfollow button is my best friend . Take care xxx

It's a tough one and I know at times pregnancy announcements have just floored me. BUT you can't isolate yourself from pregnancy and babies in life - it's everywhere - when you turn on the TV, read a newspaper, go the shops, when you go to a restaurant, at work, at some point friends and family WILL be pregnant. Infertility takes so much from us already that I can't let it leave me bitter and jealous as well. They are not purposefully being insensitive by posting their news - they are caught up in a wave of their own happiness and you can't begrudge them for that - when it's your time you'll want to sing it from the rooftops. You also don't know the stories behind each announcement - they may know your struggles but they may have had their own which they've kept secret.

Robin Williams said everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind always.
And I try and follow this in life x

When I reactivated my Facebook last year I dropped into many conversations that I'm using it for following business and local community, groups that interest me so I don't really see people's post, I don't like or comment on anything anymore it's just easier and what works for me

IF we ever do get to a BFP their will be no social media posts about being pregnant, I'll be taking a leaf out of Kylie Jenners book and telling only the minimal amount of people for as long as possible / until a baby safely arrives, infertility robs you of any happiness of being pregnant and I know I'll spend 9 months waiting for something to go wrong

I deleted it best thing i ever did was sick of everyone perfect life on it . When in reality none of them were perfect. I have no social media at all and feel free xxxx