Help wanted

[LTamsin]

Hi all! I am looking for people to share their stories with me, specifically stories about struggling to get pregnant.
Let me introduce myself! My name is Tamsin and I’m 34. Me and my partner have been trying on and off to get pregnant for approx 6 years. There has been a lot of sadness and heartbreak along the way. Recently we found out that it is me that has the issue and we have the option to be transferred for fertility treatment. This is something we are still thinking about, for now we are just taking a little break to look after ourselves.
I love to write, I find it very cathartic. And my grandma always told me to write about what you know!! This has been the biggest and most defining thing in my life and I want to write about it. However I know it’s also a huge defining issue for many others, so I would love to hear your stories. Happy or sad. If for whatever reason you need fertility treatment and have struggled to conceive then please share your story with me.
I struggle massively to talk about any of this with family or friends because I become ridiculously emotional!!! But being able to chat online is a great resource and really helps me! Thanks guys xxxx

Hi!
37 very near 38, been TTC 3.5 years. 2018 NHS advised IVF, unexplained infertility, my AMH was 15, and my womb lining doesn't always get thick enough , not entitled to treatment on the NHS as my partner has a child.
I've struggled with my mental health and not felt like I could cope with IVF failing, we finally started in March this year and then COVID happened, I m with Create we got to egg collection, only got 3 eggs I was devastated I was expecting nothing would be viable, 2 got to 5 day blasts though.
We started treatment again in June which failed, I have one left which we are hoping to start again in August I have an appointment next week
I struggle to talk about it as well as I get so upset, at one point in the space of 10 weeks 5 friends or family announced pregnancy's it's difficult to not feel pissed off

It’s so difficult not to get pissed off!!
One girl at work got pregnant recently and kept going on about how quickly it happened and what a shock it was to them and I just wanted to scream!! It’s partly my fault for not telling people though I guess as I’m sure she’d have been more sensitive if she knew - but then I don’t want a pity party! It’s tough.

I’m sorry to hear you’ve been having such a shitty time. I’m really worried about the prospect of IVF because of my mental health issues too, I’m just not sure that I’m strong enough.
I have everything crossed for you for August! ❤️🤞🏼
How do you feel about not being able to get NHS treatment because of your partners child? I think it’s so unfair xx

Hi Tamsin, justlikefood... I hear you, it’s Garda to talk, especially with people you know who just don’t get it, or Are having kids galore... It’s tough. It’s me that has an issue but I think It’s harder for my wife.. she is strong but every now and the things happen that make me feel so small..

Love gets us through it, family talk all the time, Why don’t you have kids, don’t you want kids.. it’s so hard because we don’t like to share our private life.. what do you.. I get angry,, my wife is relatively blasaie ..

The hardest part is the need for family and friends expecting you to explain why... we are now transferred to create from the nhs.. covid has messed things up.. I’ve never known how strong my wife is until now.. a true inspiration.. stay strong xx

Thanks for sharing, it’s really lovely to hear a male perspective. My partner is much like your wife in that he is quite chilled about it but sometimes i need that!! It’s very hard and we are like you that we just don’t want to talk about it to family and friends but people feel it’s acceptable to ask such personal things!
I wish you lots of luck with your treatment