Brace yourselves

[Mseddy]

The lockdown baby announcements are coming.

They are everywhere! I can't just avoid social media because I have friends texting me on what feels like a bloody daily basis announcing their wonderful news! I'm not sure how many more times I can type out the word congratulations through the fog of tears!

So I thought a good old moaning about life thread might help! Let your frustrations of all the lockdown babies out here! How wonderful it would be to have a few spare hours to fit an extra night of DTD in and BOOM bfp!

(anyone who was in the struggling crew and the extra time off etc genuinely helped you get your BFP you are 100% excused from the above sentiment! Congrats)

Anyone had any shitty comments about the lockdown baby boom? I was told by someone at work that they shouldn't restart fertility treatment yet because it'll add unnecessary pressure to the NHS when they will be struggling to cope with the lockdown baby boom and they should stagger IVF to fit in around that. I couldn't even argue, I just went a cried about how misunderstood the world is about fertility.

It’s going to be awful. There’s a horrible thread running at the moment with a fair amount of posters showing no sympathy or kindness towards those of us that struggle with friends’ pregnancies. I’m so pleased there’s this lovely board here.

@PurpleDaisies over on the conception boards? I don’t go over there these days! It just makes me sad and jealous. I’ve met some really suppprtive lovely people on the infertility boards

I've not had anyone I actually know announcing pregnancy, but some people I follow on Instagram have.

I'm raging that everyone else was allowed to crack on but we had to stop!!

@bunhead34 me too. I completely understand the reasoning behind why it stopped, but it doesn't make it hurt any less that we all got put on hold whilst the rest of the country all decided now is a good time to make more babies!

I’ve had two people send me unprompted photos of family birth announcements recently. One of the people lives in America. It’s a friends cousin! She’s never even met the cousin so why would I care?! The other was a friends sister. I haven’t seen this friend in 5 years, it’s more a happy birthday message every year type thing and I’ve never met her sister. Again, why would I care?!

I have another friend who lives in another country and sends me photos of her baby all the time and keeps on at me that she wants me to have a friend for her baby so that when we visit each other the babies can play. 🙄🙄🙄 She knows I’m going through fertility treatment.

It’s also a bit awkward at work as I had to come clean about my fertility treatment and ttc at the start of lockdown as I was still working throughout lockdown and obviously in the beginning pregnant women were put in the vulnerable group and I was in the tww. I then had to go into work a couple of weeks later and everyone obviously knew it had failed as I was back at work.

I’m just sick of being told to relax and to stop putting so much pressure on myself with my job etc which makes me feel even worse. I’m sick of being told I’m still young, I’m not that young, I’m 31 in six months. I’ve also managed to gain a stone since February through stress eating which has tipped me into the overweight category when I was previously healthy. I just feel like I’m failing at everything at the moment and I agree it feels so unfair that everyone else gets to crack on having a baby and we don’t. Sorry for the pity party. I’m just having a bad day I think! I’m sorry that you are all in this situation as well ❤️.