Ttc baby number 2

[Blessedbutstressed96]

Hi everyone new here. Looking for advice or maybe someone been through similar who could tell me their outcome. I got my marina coil out in October 2018 I’d had it in two years since I had my son 2016. Since it’s been out been trying to conceive in March 2019 I suffered a chemical pregnancy. Nothing since then , I’ve had tests to show I’m ovulating. Nothing wrong with my partner. I’ve also had an ultrasound. My periods are regular sometimes a day late but never much later. What else can they do to check for problems? Any ideas what could be causing it. It’s really getting me down and my little boy wants a brother or sister, so feel like I’m letting him down too.

Hi 😊 I could’ve written your post. I have also been trying now since 2015.
My dc always asks if he will get a brother or sister like everyone else, makes me feel so sad and frustrated.
I think I’m ok and then every months the periods shows up and I feel like this again.
I am trying to get more info about clomid as it seems lots of people get prescribed it. I know people say it’s only for if you don’t ovulate but there seems to be plenty of people who do ovulate who take it and have success!
Personally I don’t know if I can handle the Ivf route yet. How about you? Are you thinking of IVF? 😊

It’s awful. Such a horrible situation and people don’t seem to be as understanding when you already have a child. I really would like a definitive answer or at least everything ruled out, as so far only having the blood tests and an external ultrasound I feel like a lot of issues can’t be ruled out with them alone. I’d like more tests done before I consider IVF but if it goes on for another year I think that will be what we consider 😔

Not that I have engaged in them much but I think there’s some really good secondary infertility support groups out there - obviously some of the issues are very different to primary fertility issues - guilt at not being able to provide a sibling, guilt that “at least you have one” etc but also all the normal fertility issues and why isn’t my body doing what it “should” be doing 😬
Hope you get some answers and a positive pregnancy test at some point 😊

Hiya! Have the doctors recommended a hycosy? Unfortunately it didn't work for me even though I had no blockages but I know for many it has a positive outcome x

I’ve not seen much I tried to find some last night but none in the same situation so felt easier to make my own post. Thanks I hope so too🤞🏼

I’ve not had hycosy, I’ve never even heard of it until I looked through this site last night. I think I will be asking for that when I’m next at the fertility bit at hospital. I got seen in February before lock down and was told to wait 6 more months until it had hit the 2 year mark😔

Bless you, I completely understand your frustration! I've been trying three years, once referred to the fertility clinic that was one of the first steps, good luck! Xx

Hello

I’m in a very similar situation. I had dd in 2017 (who I got pregnant straight away with) and have been trying for a second since Jan 2019. We had a few tests on the NHS but I was getting frustrated with the wait times and short GP apts.

Initially I booked an apt with a private fertility clinic which was £100. Just to talk through our test results and get a better picture of things. The consultant was very good and helped to answer some of our questions.

We have no definitive reason why we’re not getting pregnant, a couple of the test results were a bit below average but by no means suggested we couldn’t get pregnant. He said it could be things are just tipped slightly out of our favour.

Following this we did decide to go for IVF, which we are in the middle of now.

Xx

Oh, he also said about half the couples at the clinic are seen for secondary infertility

It’s horrible I think when you’ve not got any answers. I’m going to keep trying and I’ll be patient until I hear back from clinic but it is very hard. We booked a holiday a few days ago for next year to try cheer ourselves up a bit but it is getting me down, more because so a close friend just told me she’s pregnant and unsure what to do as it wasn’t planned and I just feel quite down about it 😔