Am I being crazy?

[bec656]

Am I crazy for thinking about buying - couple of nursery/baby things before getting a BFP. I'm currently in the middle of IVF treatment, but I have seen a couple of really cute things and I feel like they will bring me a bit of hope and make me feel a bit more in control? I obviously won't go overboard (I know it might take years or might never happen), and I will just store them away. Please tell me if I'm mad?!

From bitter personal experience, I wouldn’t. I hope it works out for you but if it doesn’t, it’s horrible to have to get rid of it.
Everyone is different though.

Hi @bec656. I would gently recommend that you don't.
We are lucky enough to have a child but after two losses and a long time with no further luck (secondary unexplained infertility), seeing my child's cot stored in the spare room and clothes from when he was a baby is really upsetting. Every time I see them, it's a reminder of the losses and the sadness each month when AF turns up yet again.

I can understand why you would want to feel like you're taking control, but I'd recommend waiting til after you get a BFP, or even wait until after a 12 week scan.

I wish you the best of luck with your treatment.

Thanks for the advice, and I appreciate your honesty.
I'm really sorry to hear about both of your experiences, I'm thinking of you both.
I would never have bought a cot etc, it's a beautiful crotchet rug that I've specifically seen. Hopefully I'll be able to find something as beautiful in the future if I'm lucky enough for it to be successful

I'd agree with the others and say a gentle "be careful". I bought a little Xmas bauble with baby socks in it from a hospital craft fair back in December. I felt certain we were going to have a successful round of clomid after a rough 2 years of trying. For some reason that cycle felt different and I convinced myself it was a good idea to buy something. And... Here I am in July and still no BFP. If I'm not pregnant by next Xmas I'm going to have to stumble upon than damn bauble in amongst all the decorations and throw it away. I think it'll be more lovely to buy the blanket as a celebration when you get the BFP. Something lovely to look forward to!

Get rid of everything you thought you’d use for baby. Everything you bought, anything you were keeping.
That’s what I did then got bfp a year or so later. I was reluctant to buy stuff even at 20 weeks and originally planned to send DH out immediately after birth to bulk buy everything on a very long and essential list