How to cope, secondary infertility

[Clarachristine1]

Iv broken again today, after another mummy in my friends group is pregnant. Having a 2.5 yr old TTC 1.5 yr after c section aged 25
I can't cope anymore, I feel like an awful mum I can't give my DD a sibling. I feel embarrassed and left out with only one child and the constant asking questions.
I don't no how to cope anymore

Sorry to hear you're struggling @Clarachristine1
I have a 2 year old and am struggling to get pregnant again as well.

You're not an awful Mum - and you shouldn't feel embarrassed. Your fertility is not a reflection of who you are as a person or a mother.

I have found that honesty helps with people's (annoying, intrusive) questions. I have told most people that ask about when we are having another baby that we are struggling to get pregnant this time around and that every time someone asks me that question it hurts me. Everyone who I've said that to hasn't asked again!

In practical terms have you been to see anyone to help you? The good news is that you are still really young in terms of TTC - and even though you have a child, your NHS GP should at the very least refer you for blood tests etc... to figure out what's going on.

In my case my GP referred me straight to a fertility specialist even though I have a child already.

Please don't feel that you are alone. Lots and lots of people struggle to get pregnant. I know it sometimes doesn't feel like that when lots of your friends are falling pregnant at the same time - but it's true.

Wishing you the best x

Thank you so much for your kind words ! I no it's a struggle isn't it.
Yes I was very lucky I was referred straight away to a gynaecologist and Iv had 2 ultrasounds, loads of bloods. I have the tubes and dye x-ray test. Slow fill and spill on left side right side perfect. Told it shouldn't make a difference maybe take a little longer.
I no when Iv told people were working on it I hate hearing "your so young".

GP is reluctant to refer us to the fertility clinic as had these tests and told it will happen. Maybe push for it I don't no or give it till Christmas.

I admit with a bad sleeping 2 year old most months havnt been the best only managing DTD once or not at all. Sorry for rumbling just a bad day !

I definitely get that. Some days are much harder than others for some reason.
If I were you I'd push to be referred. With the best will in the world, GPs aren't experts and I've heard so many stories of them saying that you've had one so you must be able to have another. I think there's a general attitude that resources shouldn't be spent on people that already have one child.
One thing I've learned is you have to be determined to get what you are entitled to have from the NHS! Especially in our situation.
Good luck x