IVF again after a failed round?

[JoPres]

Hi,

I'm completely new to mumsnet so bear with me...

I have recently just finished my first round of mild IVF which resulted in a BFN. The process the whole way through wasn't great, I didn't grow as many follicles as they'd hoped (7 total), of them they managed to collect 7 eggs, 4 fertilised and only 1 made it to blastocyst (Grade 4Bc), the other three didn't make it to be frozen and so now we had a BFN we're back to square one and I'm not sure what to do and if it'll be worth going through it all again? Or if we do, perhaps have more medication this time around?

I have a 4 year old son who we had naturally, we had two early miscarriages before him and I also lost his twin so it's never been easy and now with this I'm not sure what to do. We've always spoken about adoption and now I'm wondering if it's the right time to go ahead with that, we still definitely have a lot of love to give and don't feel that our family is complete yet.

If anyone has any success or failure stories of ivf cycles after a failed round I'd really like to hear. Likewise if anyone has any info on adoption that would be great too.

Apologies for the essay this has turned into...

Hi I am in a similar boat to you. We too have a naturally conceived little boy who is 4 and been trying since, ended up going for Ivf, had 3 miscarriages following that in the last year and now my partner isn’t keen to go through it again, I would but it’s the money we’ve spent and now we are talking about booking a big holiday with friends and starting to enjoy being a family as a 3 but same time I’m not done! I’m due on again soon an no it’s gonna be the same again.

We have spoke about adoption one minute I think yeah it’s a good idea then I think I’m not sure but we’re not getting any younger an I just keep thinking of that clock ticking! Sorry I’m not much help it was mainly just to say I know how you feel xx

@Mctm123 yeah it sounds like we're in a really similar position! I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriages...have they given you any indication why it might be happening? I'm not sure if to give it one last go but maybe with stronger medications to see if that'll help but we're also talking about just coming to terms with being a family of three so we'll see.

I'm the same with adoption, one minute I'm all for it because there are so many kids who need homes etc. and the next I worry that I won't be emotionally enough to deal with some of the trauma they may have experienced!

I really hope you get the outcome you want whatever you decide to do x

@JoPres thank you. I haven’t had the testing done yet to see why I keep losing them but I do think it’s just down to the fact I’m getting older and my partners sperm isn’t the best. With that said, we have spoke yday about maybe just going for it again! I’m wondering about maybe phoning Access fertility today to discuss what packages they offer as last time we didn’t look into anything like that an just paid the clinic direct. My partner said what will you do if this doesn’t work though as we definitely can’t afford more then I said I don’t know but I’d have to try an come to terms with it but I just can’t yet 😥

I agree with you also about the adoption. As much as it would be wonderful to help a child in that vulnerable position, we have our birth child to think of and have to really consider impacts on them emotionally. Our household same as yours I’m sure is a happy little home and we both want to enhance that not make it worse. So difficult isn’t it! Good luck to you too xx