Fathers Day

[Youngatheart00]

Almost find this as hard as Mothers Day, anyone else? Will certainly be staying away from social media’s documentation of perfect family days. Been feeling very low and depressed today that my infertility issues have prevented DH being the father he so wants to be.

Hi Young it is depressing, I know DH would be a wonderful father, all our friends comment on it when he's with their children.
It hurts a lot, no advice just empathy 💐

Totally understand OP its horrible. I feel a bit off today it is the first Fathers Day without my dad.

@thefishthatcouldwish so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad.

Thanks @JeNeBaguetteRien for the solidarity ❤️

Hi @Youngatheart00

I was just about to post the same thing and can totally empathise. Had to take myself off social media for a couple of days as it’s gutting, like you say we can’t have the families we desire and our men are suffering just as much too.

We’re all here on this link for the same devastating reason so if you need to vent then do so, hope you have a nice chilled day & be kind to yourself.

@thefishthatcouldwish I’m so sorry for your loss, must be really hard

💐 x

Thanks @Paige2207 it really is so tough isn’t it. I just feel really flat and low on energy. DH got up early and has been watching TV downstairs. I just feel horribly, horribly guilty that he’s not a father because of my infertility. I want to stay in bed all day but then maybe thinking we should go out somewhere and make the most of the day, but we are bound to bump in to loads of family groups and not sure I can take that.

Hey fish so sorry it has an extra sadness for you this year 💐, DH no longer has his dad either so it really is a crappy day for him.

Young we were planning on heading out but yes probably lots of families everywhere.
I will say to you in particular, I have low AMH and don't get lots of eggs during IVF, and in a normal cycle I start spotting so soon that I don't know if there's ever any chance, but DH wants to be a father with me, yes he could have had children with someone else but I'm the one he wants to raise them with. He doesn't give a toss if that is via donor egg or my egg or whatever, he wants our family unit, and gets annoyed at me blaming myself. Go easy on yourself.

Paige I've done quick likes on the gushing posts of family members, didn't bother with friends, and now off that kind of social media for the rest of the day.
Especially don't want to see some of the Disney dad types .

This year a few websites that I subscribe to did send an option to opt out of fathers day emails which was something but the TV ads are unavoidable (well I know I can mute but I mean they come out of the blue).

Gentle hugs to all those finding today difficult.

Afternoon ladies.
Hard day today- I'm happy to see this thread...

My partner has a child, she's with us just for dinner today, to help him celebrate Father's Day: it's not easy for me at all.

We have male factor infertility, and his child was conceived via IVF 9 years ago.

We met when I was 36, so time was of the essence. We started IVF when I was 38, and we've had various outcomes over 2 years. Ultimately, none successful: I've had 2 failed cycles and 2 miscarriages. I'm about to start another round next month - My first FET. Feel vey lucky that at age 40, we had an embryo to freeze from our last cycle.

I'm just exhausted with it all. I don't know how to be upbeat and enjoy the day. I haven't even mentioned Fathers Day. I know he's thrilled that his daughter is joining us for dinner today, when it's not the usual day we'd have her, but I just can't engage. I feel bad about that; but I don't feel like I want to/ or can be part of today. I literally want to go back to bed.

Sigh! We'll all get through today (somehow ) Big hug and best wishes to all of you struggling with today.

Roll on Monday... x