Two blocked tubes, a shock after having a son two years ago..

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Had my 3D hycosy this morning and I'm surprised to discover I have two blocked tubes.

My son's labour was a proper carry on.. three days and a massive infection of the placenta etc, all removed during the c section and no further complications. Until now it seems.

Life can be so unfair.

Life is unfair but assumed they tried to clear the tubes ?

Totally blocked or may get preg ?

Then will be straight to ivf if you went and can afford it

Be grateful for your son. I had two blocked tubes from complications arising from appendicitis and it’s stopped me having any children.

I don’t mean that in a horrible way btw. Just puts things in perspective.

@fadedout I’m sure you are already very grateful to have your little boy. It doesn’t make future life experiences any easier does it. I have a little boy, now 8yo, and miscarried just 2 years ago. It still devastated us and caused a lot of pain. The love for my little boy didn’t change at all.

Keep talking is my advice. You will find ways to get through this, just like anyone else that has been through something similar. Myself included. I’ve been for IVF treatment and currently waiting for Friday when I have to do a test to see if it has worked.

Take care, and if you have any questions please ask away :)

Thank you Just, fingers crossed for Friday.

See, it's very hard to speak about secondary infertility because someone will always say I should be grateful for what I have etc. I am very grateful for my son, of course, doesn't stop the pain of wanting another. I also have the added guilt that my son may not have a sibling etc.

@fadedout everyone’s experiences are different. Some people just struggle to understand because of what they have been, or are currently going through themselves.

That’s the exact thing I think about. When we all get older my Son will be growing up an only child and that makes me feel sad. I’m one of 4 and we’re all very close. That’s not the only reason we want another obviously but one of the many reasons.

Thanks for the luck wishes. 3 days to go! Very anxious!!

I don't have any experience of blocked tubes, my infertility is because of other issues but i didn't want to read and run.

As someone suffering with primary infertility I just wanted you to know that we don't all agree with the "you should be grateful for what you have nonsense". My situation is my situation, and your situation is your situation, but at the end of the day, regardless of the circumstances we are all sharing a the common pain of longing for a child and facing a battle.

IVF isn't a walk in the park and i havn't been successful so far, but there are so many people on here who know so much and are willing to share experiences. Please don't feel like you can't join in with all of that because your first fertility journey was different to your current one

Just to be clear, I had a feeling my comment would be taken the wrong way. Occupational hazard with typing in Internet forums.

It was in response to life being unfair and just a reframing of what there is to be grateful for. I really DO feel life is unfair as my blocked tubes and several failed IVFs have stopped me having any children. But even then, there are things to be grateful for.

Have they said they want to remove the tubes? I wish you every luck with IVF (if that’s the route you choose to take).