Pissed of with rude people !!

[Lifesforloving1]

So today I went for my scan to see how well the Clomid had worked .
It worked well ! ( a little to well )
4 follicles on one ovary & 2 on the other .
The nurse advised me not to have sex for the week as i could get multiple births ! Also I’ve had an ectopic before ( only have one tube ) The nurse I saw had a really shitty attitude on her ! It’s made me feel really crap about the whole situation, and kept saying really sarcy things to me like “oh doesn't look great does it. The doctor won’t be happy with it working that well” “ how much did you take ? Dosnt work that well for most” she’s made feel like it’s all my fault that my bloody ovaries have produced eggs !! 😢

Wow. Was this a private clinic? Either way I would complain. Infertility is stressful as it is, the last thing you need is a trusted professional to act unprofessional. Your in your right to advise the clinic that you prefer to be seen by another nurse. Treatment is mental aswell as physical so medical staff are trained to do both.

I don’t want to stir the pot but she’s evidently insinuating you took a larger dose then prescribed which was possibly why her statements were leading statements?

Be on the safe side and not have sex- the good news is your body reacts very well to clomid so the doctor may reduce your dose or prescribe another OI medicine such as tamoxifen or letrozole.

Bat it off, we deal with difficult people everyday at times, how you react is what is important x

@ChicaXS
It wasn’t privet no , I qualified for help with the NHS, I was so happy when I finally got referred . I did one round of Clomid and was successful , it ended in an ectopic . So this round I was going in with a positive attitude, I completely understand it’s not safe to have multiple eggs With one tube & I would always do as they say. But she was really sharp with me & made me feel like a child. In the end I felt like it was my fault because I took the tablets the doctor gave me ? I’ve asked her not to scan me again. I’m worrying now that I’ll ovulate in the next few days & I’ll get pregnant , I had sex on Monday evening. I have massive anxiety about it all ...

X

You were not to know, do not beat yourself up about it, honestly. Chances are you will be fine and the largest follicle will distro an egg but abstain from future sex. Relax and focus on next month, I’m glad it’s looking up for you with clomid!!!! That’s the good news to take away. Have you spoken to your doctor yet for next month?

@ChicaXS
Thanks you’ve made me feel more positive. Yes very pleased the Clomid has worked as well as it has . Umm, the dr said for me not to take Clomid next month .
( only metformin ) and will get scanned and see if I’ve developed any eggs naturally. Have you been on Clomid before ? X

@Lifesforloving1 no I was never prescribed it because of my blocked tube but my new clinic have been more lenient and im starting a a similar drug called tamoxifen on my next cycle! I’m excited to start it.

Glad you’re feeling much positive and fingers crossed next cycle will bring you your BFP xxx

@ChicaXS
Good luck to you too ! Hope all works out for you . & thanks again for the pick me up xx

@Lifesforloving1 Good to hear that your body is responding well to the meds. Please ignore such rude ppl.. they are everywhere and try to be rude to show some kind of superiority with 'i know it all' attitude. Just ignore her and focus on your body and your future baby ..nothing can be more important xx

@duckhouse
Thankyou for you’re kind message - I was pretty upset yesterday after comming out , but my thoughts today are she is just a rude nurse that wants to show her orthoraty within the clinic . Not nice to be spoken to in such a crappy way ! But it happens a lot dosn’t it. Of course I would always take their advice but I shouldn’t of been made to feel like it was my fault. it’s not a place anyone wants to be is it . Hay ho.. I will focus on the end result. Thanks again xxx

Sorry to hear this, no need for her negativity or her trying to guilt you. I’m one of those people who all medication works well on -pain relief, fertility drugs (never got pregnant but anyway!) etc some people are just like that. No need for her to be so rude and unprofessional

Im very sorry you've had that experience, i too have been really disappointed in the staff attitudes at my NHS clinic. You'd think they would care even a little bit? That hasn't been my experience. Ive been a nurse for 10 years and I can tell you those comments are totally unacceptable from a professional point of view. I also over-responded (I had 6 eggs at a size where they could have been mature) on 100mg Clomid on my 1st IUI cycle and the cycle was cancelled, I don't think it's rare! Big hug

Gosh it really annoys me to read things like that. I took clomid and was always so anxious before those scans - I think they forget how intrusive is is to sit there legs spread with that camera up us and how desperate we are for it to work. It's heart crushingly disappointing to be told to wait another month. Some empathy could really help in those moments, especially knowing you've had that ectopic in the past. The person scanning me over the past year was nice, but I remember about 2 years ago I can out of the scan in floods of tears because I'd made a mistake by not filling in some form properly and she was SO rude to me about it, made me feel like sh*t when I was already super anxious about the whole thing and super tired of being poked and prodded by everyone. Often we're feeling a bit wobbly before we even lie down for the scan.
So I'm sorry you had that awful experience. You're justified to feel the way you do. It's not right. I don't understand why they don't get training on it all.