4 to 6 week wait for an appointment

[peanutsandpinenuts]

I'm feeling so fed up today...

We were at a London clinic waiting to start IVF with ICSI on the NHS (1 free go before we go down the route of self-funding), then lockdown and when clinics reopened I felt optimist that things would get moving soon.

I've been emailing my clinic fairly regularly to ask for updates and then really pushed for some kind of timescale today and was told we are looking at 4 to 6 weeks min.

On the one had at least I have some kind of timescale in mind and it can give me a focus to get my health in order before we start but on the other I am just soooooo sick of waiting. I'm already two years in to the whole TTC thing, I'm 35 and I'm fed up of feeling like life is on hold...

Is anyone else waiting to being a new cycle?

How are you coping with the frustration of not knowing if/when you might start?

Hi, at the beginning I was very upset about the clinic being shut, and now being on a waitlist again but I really think everything is happening for a reason. I'm 35 and been ttc for a long time but I'm still hopeful I can get pregnant naturally as we are unexplained.
I read a lot, do yoga, acupressure, good food so hopefully all this helps when it comes to treatments.
If we waited so long I'm sure a few more weeks or month doesn't matter.

Hello, I'm in a similar position, we have been ttc for 2.5 years. I've been pregnant 3 times but no children - all of my tests for recurrent mc are normal and we have an unexplained diagnosis.

Our 1 round of funding was approved in February but we didn't get to consent before our clinic closed. I was with an NHS hospital but luckily my ccg have allowed us to request a transfer to Create. I heard today that this will be processed on Wednesday, so hoping we can get started soon 🤞 I'm pleased it's with Create as my amh is on the low side (9.5 and I'm 36, 37 in August).

We have been ttc naturally for a couple of months but I'm half tempted to stop now and just focus on the ivf. I don't want to risk another miscarriage and delay things. I've no idea what the wait will be to start though.

Ps @peanutsandpinenuts I'm sorry you're feeling fed up ❤️ I've had a terrible weekend, lots of tears and I felt very low... Its really hard to keep going xx

Sounds like you have such a good attitude @Chicasimona and are using the extra time well. You're right, after this long what is another month or so. I got a mat for acupressure and have found it really great for relaxing.

Thanks @VenusStarr hope you are feeling better too... we just have to keep going don't we and keep positive. Interesting about you transferring your NHS funding might look into that if at the end of the 4 - 6 weeks it looks like a lot longer. What was the process?

We could get pregnant naturally too but aren't really focused on trying right now... it all got a bit joyless tbh.. we're just enjoying ourselves again and not doing anything to prevent. Felt like we might as well take the pressure off seeing as we know realistically we need to do IVF which won't exactly a picnic!

Sorry for the delay @peanutsandpinenuts it was quite straight forward for us to request a transfer. I contacted my nhs fertility clinic and spoke to the finance person - she was who'd sent our funding letter. She checked my CCG and told me that they'd added Create to their provider list and I had to submit a written request for transfer of care to the hospital fertility clinic director - he replied to say he was arranging it. I spoke to them yesterday and my notes are being sent tomorrow. I called Create today and the contract officially starts in August, so we'll be contacted then to have the initial appointment.

I'm sorry for your loss, we've decided to hold off ttc and wait for the clinic - we've tried on our own and now I think we need help. I feel much calmer now I've made the decision to stop and wait.