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Fertility journeys - Our ICSI Cycle postponed

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Ln88 · 14/05/2020 13:38

Me and my husband had been trying to conceive for 2 years before finally seeking help & getting ourselves on the waiting list for NHS referral. After waiting nearly a year, we were instantly rejected & told we were not eligible for ICSI on the NHS. We got money together for private treatment, when our marriage went on a slippery slope & after booking and cancelling our appointments a few times, not through choice of my own, my husband called it a day & said he didn’t want it anymore. My heart shattered. A week later, my husband understood his stupidity & explained his actions. He was hurting too. So after having the treatment ready to start, dangled in front of me & snatched away, I reluctantly agreed to continue, in fear that the same would happen again. My husband is a new man, his love & support has been everything i’ve needed through the whole process. Clearing the air & splitting made us understand what we wanted & how much we wanted it. We had our medication delivered in the beginning of March & days before starting, we were told that treatment will be on hold indefinitely due to Covid-19. My heart shattered again. I cry most days. I’m new to mumsnet as I just want to hear everyone elses fertility journey, as I don’t know if my reaction & heartache is normal. We read online that our clinic will be recommencing services in the beginning of July, and i broke down to hubs, cried & said I can’t cope anymore. It’s always a waiting game & it plays on my heart & mental health. Is this normal? Or have I really just had enough? There just seems like so many obstacles in our way!

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Hoping1 · 14/05/2020 13:53

Hi what clinic are you with xxx

Ln88 · 14/05/2020 13:55

CRGW, they are preparing to recommence mid June with treatment plans, ready to start services in July. We already have a treatment plan in place & the meds in our house ready xx

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Hoping1 · 14/05/2020 14:03

Are they on list of reopening . The whole fertility games is a really long waiting game . I cry all the time it get harder the longer it goes on we been trying 3 year this year thought we were getting somewhere them boom covid. Clinic that are opening seem to be moving quick so hopefully fingers crossed you will here from them soon or give them a ring see where you stand lv you have every right to xxxx

Ln88 · 14/05/2020 14:48

It’s honestly the most traumatic & heartbreaking situation I have ever experienced! Just seems like for us, we’re stuck at the starting line & everything is stopping us. Are you with a clinic yet? Or just about to pursue treatment? There is such a lack of support for the mental health of infertility patients! We’re just impatient and over dramatic... I’m checking the HFEA list every hour! My clinic has posted that their plan is dependent on the HFEA, which i’m assuming that their application is still pending. It’s out of everyones control, but it doesn’t stop it from being frustrating & heart breaking!

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Hoping1 · 14/05/2020 14:56

It is so hard this journey but remember you are not alone I find it better talking to people on this site as they truly understand everything you are going. Even my mam I find hard to talk to i always get angry with her as she says stop stressing it will happen she fumes me. I am with James cook nhs we have our injection week of covid were going to get shown how to do them and collect meds but we didn't get there. My clinic has a counselors that we can contact at any time offered to both of us havnt used yet. My clinic hasn't said that they have applied for it yet so I just look at list every min every day well it feels that way away xxx

Ln88 · 14/05/2020 15:14

I’ve literally never talked about it to anybody except my husband. Our parents know, but they don’t mention it. That’s the worst thing you can hear, it’ll happen!! I also get people asking me at work, when are you having babies then? I have to laugh & joke it off but inside i’m screaming at them!! It’s nice to come on here & people seem to understand! Hope your clinic announce some good news for you soon, I wouldn’t wish this waiting on anyone! xxx

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Hoping1 · 14/05/2020 18:47

I feel better talking about it on here as people know what you going through plus there are alot of people at this minute in time in the same boat as us so feels like you not the only one going through this shit time. Same to you hope you hear something soon zxx

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