Will the Dr listen or brush me off?

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Hi all. First of all sorry if this isn't in the right place, I've posted on a different bit but reading some of the posts here thinks you guys will have the answer for me.

I THINK I'm possibly having my second chemical pregnancy- neither of which are confirmed due to me not testing. Both came around the time of my period and I've been good at not testing unless I'm a good few days late and then the bleeding would start (with lots of clotting) by which point I assume it's too late to get a positive result even if it was a chemical?

Anyway, I track ovulation and generally have around 32 day cycles, with my peak/solid smiley face at around CD22, meaning only a 10 day luteal phase at best. I'm wanting to approach the doctor about this now, however I'm overweight, technically obese in fact and I wonder if this means the doctor will say nothing but lose weight at this point?
My hope would be they would test my hormone levels etc despite my weight issues and at least know if there are things that need addressing but I fear they'll just send me away until I'm slimmer. I am of course trying to lose weight but there's only so quickly it happens and being in my early 30s already means I'd rather know what I'm dealing with sooner rather than later if there's anything above and beyond weight issues! I'm struggling to find clear info on the steps taken and at what point of trying once I visit a doctor?

Sorry for the ramblings but any words of wisdom/anyone that's been through similar/opinions on Dr standpoint?

Thanks!

I'm sorry you're going through such an uncertain time.

A few thoughts: do you know they were pregnancies or do you think they were. Thinking you've lost two pregnancies might not mean you have.

At two chemicals (and ttc for over a year) my gp basically told me to fuck off and have 'some more miscarriages' before they would offer me testing. I'd had positive tests, so knew for certain these were chemicals. Normally they won't test until three miscarriages because miscarriages are (sadly) very common.

Third thing. Your weight. A gp may mention it. Might not. They may offer testing but would certainly not offer you any treatment until your bmi is below 30. So it's a bit moot getting 'hormone tests' when a) there is nothing they will do about it and b) your weight affects certain reproductive hormone levels (mainly oestrogen). So weight loss would change certain hormone levels and the tests would be rerun when you've lost weight.

Thank you, I really appreciate the response.

No not confirmed, like I say I'm very good at not testing until my period is late by a few days ( learnt not to get my hopes up!) and just as I'd be getting to the point both times I would then come on by which point I've been told is too late to test and get an Honest result so I've just left them. Without over sharing, both times that I've suspected it have been different to my usual period (but then I suppose you over assess everything when ttc so who knows I suppose)

I suppose my plan of action should be to keep on losing weight whilst waiting for the lockdown to lift and then give the doctors a go and see how we get on? The thought of seeing the doctor is an emotional one today, it's like really acknowledging that things aren't quite going as easily as you'd hope isn't it.

Anyway, thank you, I really appreciate your response!