Should I just get on with it?

[Pinkroseuk]

We have been ttc for 3 years this week. It was my birthday on Tuesday and mil recked it (she forgot it was my bday) by arguing all night with hubby over coronovirus! Last night was looking forward to a quiet one and brother in law announced they were expecting their first. They have been married for 5 months and trying for 3.
I couldn't summon up the courage to speak to them (they know our situation) and hubby was understanding but not sure he gets how much it's getting me down now.
Am I being unreasonable or has anyone else had a similar situation where family have announced and your finding it hard? Thanks

I am the same. My younger sister had an unexpected pregnancy.. cause we have no more parents.. she kept coming to me for advice or things she needs.. at that time we had 3 miscarriages. It was really hard for.. kept crying on how unlucky I am. She got pregnant again. And I actually got pregnant at the same time but ended up losing that because it was ectopic. She now have two boys while I am going through first ivf. She even told me how upset she was cause it was another boy. Wanted to tell her how lucky she is for not having my issues. But didnt .. just cried myself again.

It's hard.. it sucks.. I haven't told her to stop telling me only cause we have no more parents.. but you can if its affecting you. Just be honest. My husband has always been positive and supportive so that helps for me. I just throw all my depression and negativity to him and he is very good in making me less worry and sad. .

Sorry to hear that @Hopingandpraying23.
Yes sil has a two year old and she complained at the time it took her 3 months to get pregnant. I wanted to tell her but held it in!
I think I willl try and get hubby to sit down tonight and talk about it. He's very happy for bil but at the same time has asked questions. We have very much planned for a baby for years - got a house, payed off as much debts as possible- they have a 1 bed flat and are he was asking the other day where do we put the cot as there is literally not enough floor space!

Thankyou though you have helped me and I will try to work it through this evening when back from work

Me!

Go to the GP and he will take it seriously that you have not conceived yet as they normally expect you to conceive within 18 months You may have to go down the IVF route. We have two Dds from it.

Dig deep bite your tongue and go to the GP and also keep it to yourself while it’s on going

Also try and not let bitter feelings override you about them. Try and enjoy their excitement and kids because you will be there one day

Thankyou @Emptywallet.
We have been to the doctors and have been told ivf is the only way but they won't refer me till my weight is down. I have lost nearly 4 stone so far but struggling now.
Thankyou - I am happy for them but at the same time it's hard

Pink that’s amazing!! Well done you!! Keep going and you will get to the point you need them out it all back on when your pregnant

Good luck