Year 2: desperately seeking something

[TheBeesKnee]

Hello, some of you may remember me from the MFI Support thread.

DP had surgery for a varicocele last summer which worked for a couple of months but seems to have failed. So we're back at square 1 but DP has a piece of metal inside his body for no reason now. And of course no BFP.

In my desperate search to find something I can control or influence, I have put together this calendar of my cycles since we started TTC "officially"

Not seeing much of a pattern, unless someone sees something I don't?

Hi @TheBeesKnee, we're also in year 2... It sucks.

The only thing that really stands out is your cycle length ranges from 24-34 days. Are you tracking ovulation? I have 25 day cycles and ovulate on cd10/11 - is it possible you're missing ovulation some months?

I don't know much about male factors, when you say it worked for a couple of months, what do you mean?

Hi, I would say I’d you’ve male factor that’s what is causing your issues. Your cycles seem normal to me. We have male factor and were told it’s extremely unlikely we’ll conceive naturally so we are doing IVF-ICSI.

Have you been referred for IvF?

Hi @TheBeesKnee how are you getting on now? Have you been referred to a fertility clinic yet?x

How do you mean the variocele op has failed? Has he had his sperm checked since? Has it reverted to previous results?

Sorry for the incoming TMI, VenusStarr, Aspoonfullofjam and MissSmiley

DP had a SA done before the surgery (privately) and had

Hi all, can I join you. Just starting year two now. Does anyone else struggle that it's just not possible to chat to usual circle of friends about this?

Jester27

Welcome to the shit club, sorry to have you on board.

Yep, I don't feel like I can bring it up with any friends. I know so many people who have had babies, I feel surrounded!

I can't even talk to people I know have been through this, to be honest. I used to talk to a woman who took 3 years to fall pregnant, do you'd think she would get it, but the relationship petered off after she would ask me every other month if I was pregnant and then offer platitudes.

Hi @TheBeesKnee congrats on the new house. I Don’t think you should be giving up yet. You haven’t even tried any reproductive assurance. We are two and half years of trying plus one dismal failed ivf and we are still hopeful. This is with DH having awful ok everything ok his SA and a DNA frag of 52% as well.

I find this girls blog very good. She’s had a long road but she’s gotten there. cazziebee.com/

Plus you are early 30’s and if your tests are all fine then that’s helping improve your chances too.

Maybe throw your energy into getting started with ivf once this epidemic calms down and in the meantime preparing for ivf with diet plans, exercise, yoga and supplements for you and DH. Then you’ll be in peak readiness for ivf and able to progress quickly.