Im so confused

[Alwhitham]

So a bit of a back story of...
My partner and I had only just got back together back in January of 2017.
After 6 weeks we found out I was pregnant and at the time neither of us were in a place for more children (I have 2 with a previous, so does he) so we decided our best option was to terminate the pregnancy.

We've been trying now since February of last year, and still nothing.

I honestly feel like I am being punished for our decision to end the previous pregnancy.

I know it's a bit of a stretch, but has anyone else struggled afterwards to conceive

You're not being punished.
Secondary infertility is more common than you might think. This is where you learn (or I did) that "infertility" doesn't mean "can never have kids", just that is not happening for you as a couple right now.

If you're sure you want a fifth child (between you) it might be worth making an appointment with a fertility specialist, and using ovulation kits if you haven't been.

Thanks for the reply.. I've been using ovulation kits and have been keeping on online log of my menstrual cycle. I'm 32 next and I've just got a daunting feeling that if it doesn't happen before I'm 33 it's never going to happen

Your not being punished at all ! Sometimes it just takes a lot along.
Iv had a termination at 16 and one at 20 then took one year to conceive my DD at 23. Have now been trying since having last injection December 2018 periods back to normal feb 2019.
It doesn’t mean you can conceive again just may be taking long 💕 and your still so young!

Thanks sweet, just feel a bit naff about it all..

I no how you feel. I get such down days but the time will come I tell myself x

Ah you're young! Good luck. X

Statistically speaking 98% of couples will be pregnant in two years of actively trying if no fertility issues exist. I know another year is a long time to try through. You could investigate the costs if private investigations as to why you may be struggling now as you will not receive funding for investigations as you have previous children and pregnancies.

You aren’t being punished, that is for sure. But I would see a GP to look into both of your fertility. Unfortunately eggs are limited and sperm does become less fertile over time. But with your age you should be ok. But it’s worth checking this and other infertility issues