Dealing with failure

[Buffy101]

Does anyone have any tips on dealing with IVF failure? I'm feeling really sad at the moment. I found out my second go at IVF failed last week. I thought I would bounce back as I got myself into a really positive headspace before this second go. But now all I think is maybe it isn't going to work for me. I'm 37 and feel like time is running out but at this moment trying again feels too scary.

Thank you - good to know!

@Hufflepuff1 yes it’s definitely a kind of grief isn’t it... hoping all our luck changes soon x

Yes it’s a grief as the embryos are developing so alive as such

Just don’t implant. :(

And obv in our case and many others we had to pay so not only did it fail but have to then pay pay loans credit cards etc and no baby

@blondeshavemorefun you’ve hit the nail on the head with two very real reasons it hurts so much. The embryos are living things and they represent the potential of a life so there is very real grief. I deliberately didn’t want any photos of mine for that reason.

The second - money - so true. With the failure of a cycle all I want to do is book an amazing holiday and get away from it all or have something to look forward to. But inevitably we stretch ourselves so far and are paying for the cycle long after it’s failed.

Life SUCKS sometimes.

I’m doing the holiday approach as we speak... only thing I can think of that might make me feel better - other than wine which I know will make me feel even worse after!!

@Youngatheart00 totally

Our 4th failed and we imm booked a holiday for few month time as needed the sun and relaxing etx

Did 5th A month or two later and bloody hell it worked So went on holiday think 8/10wpreg. Had hg and was throwing up non stop and in shade as couldn’t stand the sun

If only I knew that was the way to make ivf work

Book a bloody expensive holiday lol

Definitely having something to look forward to is how I’m going to deal with the failure if it comes over the next few days. This is torture x

I think as well as the embryo being alive and grieving over that there's also a grief over the loss of hope for that embryo and that cycle etc

I definitely like the idea of booking a holiday. Any recommendations?

@Buffy101 I’m thinking Portugal! Found a great surf / yoga place so thinking there will be options whether I’m pregnant or not! x