Longing for second baby

[SAMlady]

I have a wonderful and amazing DD who is 2, and I count my blessings everyday. She's my whole world.

I was 40 when I had her, had two mc before her. I'm 43 now and it doesn't seem like DC2 will happen for us. I had a mc at 7 weeks and 7 cycles afterwards no BFP.

Feel so sad, can't really talk about it with friends as they're going through hard times. I guess it's only biology but my arms are longing for another baby. Feel so sad when I see any family of 2 or more.

@Ladymadonna31 300mg per day of the Life Extension brand (Super Ubiquinol COQ10) I upped it to 400mg per day on my IVF injections. I also took high dose Vit D spray from Holland and Barrett (This is so important) and also Life Extension Folate as well as Omega 3 fish oil.

Happy to help if you have any questions x

I am also struggling to have another child, been trying for 3 years and my son keeps asking if I am pregnant, he puts his outgrown clothes and babyish toys aside for his baby!! It breaks my heart. . The only consolation if he remains alone is that we will remain a close family and get to spoil him more.. more attention, time and dedication!

Sorry to hear more stories, while I wish none of us understood it's really helping to hear some people do.

Googling those vitamins now @VillageFete

What do you say when people ask if you're planning number 2? I'm honest and say I don't think it will happen for us, but it's so much heartbreak to reveal. People think you're focussed on career or whatever!

Secondary infertility is so misunderstood - the attitude that you should be grateful you have one is widespread but the longing for the family you imagined is very real. I envy those who’ve never experienced infertility so much - they have no idea .

My DD is also asking for a brother or sister now, it's pretty gut wrenching.

I'm not sure how much the NHS can help with a second try, I have had some tests but not heard from them now

SAM - I usually say we'll see or I would love to. And leave it at that. But it's very hurtful and a reminder when people ask. Wish they wouldn't.

Sometimes when I’m feeling brave I say “we’ll we’d love to have another but I’ve had 4 miscarriages so far”. That shuts them up! But then sometimes i get such a pitying look it makes me feel worse and I wish I’d kept quiet. I hate it when people ask!!