Feeling so alone through ivf

[Stacey2007]

Hi everyone. I’m just over 2 weeks into our journey. I’ve hated it all already. My moods are awful. I feel emotional all the time, I keep arguing with my partner, it’s horrible, it’s suppose to be a happy time 😩 it’s got to be the drugs because this is not me at all, I’m normally such a happy person, has anyone else found they felt like this?

Sorry you feel so bad . Are you down regulating at the moment? That made me really emotional - terribly moody and really sad.

I am yes. I’m so glad it’s not just me, I feel like I’m a completely different person. When did you start to feel more yourself ?

Honestly I was unhinged The good news is that I felt better almost the day I stared the stimulation drugs. Just try to get through these next few days without losing it and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel! Good luck with your cycle.

Thankyou so much. You’ve gave me hope 😅

You’re welcome. There are lots of ups and downs with ivf, I found this board really helpful when I started out.

They really is. And maybe it’s my moods but I thought my partner would be amazing but I’ve found he’s been so selfish.! And I feel like he’s been so distant. This will be my one and only shot at Ivf just because I can’t go through all this again. So fingers crossed everything works just fine

Hopefully you won’t need to do it again but you can do ivf without down regulation so that’s an option. I’m never down regulating again, was just too hard.

Can you really. I don’t really know much about ivf, just started what I was told 🙉 how come they make you down reg if they is choice not too 😮

It gives the clinic better control of timings for your cycle and I think it also reduces issues with uneven follicle growth during stimulation (without down regulating you can get a lead follicle which grows bigger than the rest rather than nice roughly even growth of several at once which is what you want). I think NHS clinics prefer it for both those reasons, makes things much more reliable.

I do short protocol mild ivf so no down reg - from starting injections to egg collection is about 12 days and honestly felt fine throughout- I'd maybe ask about it if you have to go again x

That would be so much better, I’ve been down reg for just over 2 weeks now. I should find out today If I can start my second injection tonight, fingers crossed. I feel like I’ve been doing it for months 🙈 I will defo ask about that if I need to go through it again thankyou

Hi, Stacey2007! I know this feeling when everything goes down and you cannot control your emotions I felt like we were going to divorce with my hb as I was very irritated because of ivf drugs and he was telling me that I was so aggressive. Luckily, we found our solution. We applied to our family psychologist and she saved our family from a collapse. May be my advice is helpful for you, at least a bit. Don't try to go through all this alone, you need support and help from your closest people! I am nervous now bcos of my ivf process too. I do hope it's gonna be good! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

Hi everyone. I’m day three after transferring 2 embryos. I’m going insane! I’ve been signed off work because of the sort of job I do.
I’m getting awful cramps. To the point they’re making me sick. I’m extra scared because my period is due on Monday. My husband works every day so I never see him. I’ve been here for three days now and I’ve heard nothing from family.
I feel so alone, and feeling as though all this has failed 😢😢

Thinking of you. We are starting soon and the risk of sounding like a crabby cow l don’t expect it to be a happy time. It sounds stressful and draining especially for the woman. Thinking of you

Thank you.
It is rough on us women. I feel like there’s such a huge responsibility on my shoulders. Having said that, we had a successful round 8 years ago. I thought it would be easier this time, knowing what to expect! It seems I’ve forgotten it all. I can’t bring myself to hope that it works. This is my last go. My oncologist won’t allow another egg harvest because of other health issues, so all my eggs are literally in one basket! 😢

Are you on Burserelin for down reg? That stuff is hell on earth!!

You can do a round without it. I have and felt absolutely fine.

Thanks everyone I’m so glad we’ve got this where we can share our thoughts and emotions. Nobody knows I’m doing this so it’s so hard because I’ve got no one to talk too. @Ginandtonic31 I’m on buserelin, isn’t it just 😩 hated every bit of it, I never knew you could do it without it I just got told I would be on it 🙈

Hi Stacey2007 sorry you're feeling stressed. Some men are very understanding and sympathetic but sounds like yours is having trouble supporting you. Tbh mine wasn't and it makes the process a lot worse. Not only do you worry about getting embryos and a positive test but you worry about the stress of an unsupportive partner affecting the outcome :-( I actually preferred the injections to the rows with my hubby! Good luck x

I’m so glad it’s not just me. They really don’t understand do they. I’ve never felt so stressed and depressed it’s horrible and I feel like he’s just like “here we go again” then it makes you more stressed 😂 yeah I agree with you there 🙉... how did you get on ? Did you end up with a positive ivf ? 🤞🏼

I was on buserelin and long protocol is a killer.. short protocol is great x