Similar position, same questions so very sorry but I have no answers. Age 35, husband 39 TTC since sept 2015 and on initial testing told that DH had a count of 7million. That's since gone up to 28 million but we're still having ICSI.
First fresh cycle had 1 x 4BB blast transferred BFN.
FET of 1 x 4BB BFN
FET of 1 x 4BB BFN
Had the implantation bloods that were normal, saw the consultant and embryologist who both said there's nothing wrong and it's just the luck of IVF.
Second cycle - disaster. Of 14 eggs retrieved, only 3 fertilised and they weren't great quality. Had x 2 transferred on day 3 that was BFN. From follow up they don't know why the quality was suddenly so poor but suspected it was because they had triggered me on day 8 of stims so wrote that for the next one to leave me to say 10 minimum.
Third cycle - on egg collection couldn't get to my ovaries due to my bowel. Had to puncture my uterus and only managed to get 3 out. 2 fertilised and they were frozen on day 1. I'm now on antibiotics as a result of the puncture and seriously wondering why I'm in this position. Only happened this week so not had follow up but from Internet research it's just unlucky and happens to 1% where they have to leave good eggs behind and puncture the uterine wall for access to some.
Why, when there's nothing wrong with me have I had x 5 embryos transferred and never had two lines. Nobody has been able to answer my question. They've scrutinised my uterus, measured my hormones etc and there's no reason. I'll have another x2 transferred next month, but I just feel it's madness to be hopeful for them to work when my experience is simply that it won't.
Do we throw more money at this? What if 3 more cycles down the line we're still here, except £25,000 lighter and me at my wits end because of the psychological torment of keep doing this to myself.
In terms of further tests, maybe ERA. Everything else is done, as I'm sure the issue is me as it's an implantation issue. The embryologist said the 3 blastocysts we got on the first cycle were good quality so I'm sure if we had a sperm issue it would have shown in the embryo quality - please correct me if I'm wrong though.
Please tell me if you have any thoughts or answers as because my husband is so wonderful he will support me whatever I want. I want a baby, but at what cost?!