Would you have ICSI again?

[Crazyeyes3]

I hope this post doesn’t come across as insensitive to those of you who have so far been unable to conceive. I just didn’t know where else to post.
I have recently given birth to DD after over 3 years of ttc and one cycle of ICSI which by some miracle worked.
I feel incredibly lucky.
We only got one embryo (DD) so have nothing in the freezer and would have to go through the whole process again to have a sibling. I personally don’t feel like I want to do this as I would be worried we would spend lots of money and not be able to conceive again and would rather spend that money enjoying life with DD. However rI think I would feel guilty though about DD being an only child.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and what did you do?

Thanks

I'm not (yet) in the situating. But dh and I have discussed it. My (ivf) dd is only four and a half months. We are fortunate to have three Frosties... but we've agreed we will never do another fresh round. Reasons are similar to the doubts you're having, and I really don't want to get trapped into the cycle of 'just one more round' when we are so lucky to have dd. Money is also a significant issue. I've just taken a massive step back money and career wise to have dd (by choice) so we'd have to take on debt that I feel could be better used (for us).

There is no right or wrong. Infertility is an impossible situation,

Similar situation. Did one cycle of ICSI, after 3 years TTC#2, and was a nightmare. End up with 1 frostie, not able to have fresh transfer due to a polyp so has to have a polypectomy and then frozen transfer. Cost me £12k in total, with polypectomy etc and failed. I regret the false hope (“you had DD before, probability ok etc” which after it failed the Consultant conceded was low chance of working in future although would support another round if I wanted it..) . So much time and money felt wasted when should have been happy. That was a year ago and am finally moving on, just tinged with regret over one child. But will get there.

I'm in the same situation as physicskate. We have frosties from our second icsi cycle which gave us DD, which we might transfer. But another fresh cycle, no. The emotional, physical and financial toll is too great and much as I want a second child, I want to enjoy the one we have as much as possible.

I am currently trying for a second with a frozen embryo. I would not go again from scratch and will only do one FET, even though I have enough for a few tries. We fought long and hard for one, I cannot go through too much more heartbreak. If this doesn’t work we will count our blessing and move forward as a family of 3.

I have a naturally conceived DD and since have had one failed FET and then one that ended in a ruptured ectopic

I really want to give DC a sibling and complete our family and so will do another full ICSI cycle in next couple of months - I think I'd regret it if I didn't try again

I have a naturally conceived DD and since have had one failed FET and then one that ended in a ruptured ectopic

I really want to give DC a sibling and complete our family and so will do another full ICSI cycle in next couple of months - I think I'd regret it if I didn't try again

I have DS From 2nd fresh ICSI cycle and two Frosties.

I’d use the Frosties and then do fresh cycles again too! I love being a mum and can’t imagine not doing it all again.

I also found the second cycle much easier as I knew what to expect - and it was much more successful as they learn things from the first cycle. Second cycle I had less drugs but got more eggs, they gave me melatonin to help me sleep and I got my son and Frosties!

Son is 6 months old and I’ve already contacted the clinic about going again - we’ll wait til he’s almost a year though due to evidence of making it a safer pregnancy.

I’m breastfeeding and will stop earlier than I would otherwise to get on with trying for number 2 which I do feel bad about - but then I think of the joy my son will have from having a sibling lifelong and think missing or on a couple of months of breast milk is nothing!

Good luck in whatever you decide x

Hi I’m kinda going through the same things right now we had ivf the first time 2 years ago which resulted in our daughter. I thought back then we’d never go through the expense or stress again but decided our daughter needed a sibling.
We were advised on ICSI this time round and got 2 embryos transferred a week ago. However I’m 39 now and these were not as good quality as the first time. Just shows what a difference 2 years can make. I’m not sure if it’s worked yet, have just posted my own thread on this. My advise would be if your going to do it, this fact that one worked goes in your favour, just don’t wait too long, easier said than done I know as it’s so expensive!

Good luck what ever you decide xx

In the same situation. We only got one fertilised embryo which thankfully resulted in our ds.

The plan was to do another cycle when he was 9 months old, then we put it off until he was 18 months old and again until he was 2.

Then we decided that we couldn't do it. I have fears around birth defects due to egg quality and family history and while it's easy to say that we would treat another cycle as a happy bonus if it worked, I can see how we would get sucked into "just one more try".

I am so happy since we made the decision. I realise now I didn't enjoy the last 2 years with ds as much as I could because the thoughts of another round of treatment was always on my mind.

I am lucky that I have no desire for another child, no pangs when I see a pregnant woman. The only sadness I have is for my ds, in that he will be an only but I have talked to other mothers who have multiple children and they all have concerns in some way, e.g a girl that only has brothers and won't ever have a sister relationship or vice versa.

I think it would depend on medical circumstances and age (and how likely you be to get some good embryos). It’d also depend on finances - the money would need to be readily available. If the cycle meant debt/going without, I’d be reluctant.

We had one cycle of ICSI with a fresh transfer which resulted in DS.

We said that we would do upto three fresh rounds in the beginning, luckily it worked first time and I will be forever grateful.

I think I would've considered doing two more fresh rounds to try to give him a sibling but have, by some miracle, conceived naturally after a year.

We won't do any more treatments now, although i would love a third I think it would tip DH over the edge.

I've had 2 full cycles of icsi and am currently cycling with FET. I'd do it many times more as long as it takes to get to bfp and life birth. I read it takes on average 6-9 attempts.

I am currently pregnant from my second cycle with the last and only embryo, so have nothing in reserve.

We had already decided that this was the last cycle, so if everything goes okay with the pregnancy this baby will be the only one for us. It is not just the money, but that I don't want to go through the stress and the heartache of it all again.

I am not sure what the cause of your infertility is, so apologies if this is insensitive, but I do actually know of a number of couple who had infertility, conceived the first through IVF/ICSI and then ended up have a further child through a natural pregnancy (they all thought the IVF helped kick start them) so if there is no reason and you do not want a full cycle again, it may be worth seeing how things go naturally as well.

We have unexplained infertility so I suppose natural conception is a possibility.