My journey so far

[MrsV2018]

I don't really know why I'm posting this. Maybe for some support, advice or just hoping it's therapeutic. Have been ttc for 2.5 years now and tried it all.. acupuncture, reflexology, herbal supplements but nothing seems to have worked. Have never had the joy of seeing those lines on a pregnancy test and never really felt any symptoms where I had at least some hope. Last year I went to the GP who after some persuasion sent me off for my day 21 bloods. They came back 'fine' and that's it. No further advice or guidance just... keep trying. OH went to GP but was not so forthcoming so they didn't sent him off to get any tests. This year we took the step to go to a private clinic to get further tests done. OH had his sperm tested and they came back good. I had my AMH tested and an internal scan. Everything is fine but he found a cyst on one ovary which he says is nothing to worry about. So now I need to make a decision. Apparently my options are either to get a laparoscopy or go to IVF. The laparoscopy is to see if my tubes are blocked.

Going privately has been hard financially and using the money we put aside for our baby has felt like a double edged sword.

I just didn't think this would be so hard and it breaks me to think that there aren't any answers yet..

If you feel up to sharing your journey please do..

Welcome! Sorry you're having such a tough time.

There are other, much less invasive tests than laparoscopy to see whether your tubes are blocked. Have your clinic advised why they recommend this specifically, over the alternatives?

@Persipan thanks for responding. I'm not quite sure to be honest but I'll ask him that. I think I just took it as that was the only 2 options.

I had the same option given to me by my hospital and I would go with the laparoscopy, all my bloods showed up fine and my hycosy showed my tubes were clear. Following my laparoscopy they found the following...
1 tube filled with fluid needed to be drained and clipped as if you do get pregnant can be dangerous to the baby.
Lots of scar tissue all around overis, tubes, bowel etc.
I never had any sign of this or pain so was a complete shock to find all of that.

That is obviously a bad case scenario but I would do everything you can to prepare yourself so the ivf has the best chance of working if you choose to go down that route.

I'd do laparoscopy, if the tubes are blocked that would be an easy fix. Good luck!

I think you need to find another GP. It shouldn't be a struggle to get him to have testing done when you've been ttc for 2,5 years.

Maybe try and talk to an ob/gyn too, as this is a fairly specific issue that your gp may not be familiar with.

Finally, you might want to think about how much having kids matters to you.

Personally, it was one of the few things I knew with absolute certainty my whole life, that I wanted kids. I paid out of pocket for the medical help I needed. I am fortunate to be able to afford that, but if I hadn't I know without a shade of doubt that I would have found other solutions.

So, if this matters to you as much as it did to me, I think you should definitely get more testing done.

Finances wise, I would suggest looking into foreign clinics that may be more affordable. I haven't needed IVF but I heard good things about clinics in Spain and in the Czech republic.

Whether this testing or IVF work for you or not, I think having done all you possibly can makes it much easier to live with the consequences, positive or negative.