To try for another baby with a 6 month old

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I’m just looking for some advice and reassurance really! Struggled to conceive my son, 6 months of clomid and then 6 months of letrozole and the month we were due to start ivf I got pregnant on Background diagnosis of PCOS, age 27.
I’ve always wanted a big family, atleast 3 kids, but I’ve got the fear that I got one off lucky and should start trying again pronto. If we were to struggle to conceive again we wouldn’t be able to afford private IVF and obviously wouldnt be entitled to NHS as we have our perfect boy.

I’ve also got the fear of how work would be if I went back pregnant 🙈

I also feel guilty about wanting another baby so soon when I feel beyond lucky to have this one.

anybody been in a similar situation and what did you decide?

I wouldn’t rush it. You’re only 27, and if your only problem is PCOS you’ve got plenty of eggs left! And I think it’s better for your body to leave it at least a year between pregnancies. Plus, have your periods returned? You may find that your pregnancy and birth has “cured” your PCOS and you fall pregnant easily - this happened to me (ivf for PCOS first time round, minipill failure within 3 months of my period coming back second time round!) and my obstetrician said it was common for a pregnancy to “sort out” issues like PCOS.

But, having said all that - if you really want another child now, go for it!

Thanks @stealthbanana for the quick reply! No periods yet which I think is fuelling the fear of no ovulation! I would love another one in 2 years I know it’s just irrational fear inside saying that if I wait it might never happen! Glad to hear your success story though so maybe a happy surprise baby wouldn’t be the worst thing right now!

I have pcos - ivf for dd1 and a surprise pregnancy just after her first birthday for dd2.

Haha. It took a full year for my period to return but it was super regular after that (previously was having 70+ day cycles, was cloned resistant etc). I’d at least wait to see if your period comes back naturally before you rush.

And, as my obstetrician said when talking about contraception, remember the first ovulation comes BEFORE the first period...

@stealthbanana @Undervaluedandsad thanks so much, reassurance has made the fear a little less intense. 🤞🏽

I needed clomid to conceive my first so just decided to let nature take its course just in case we couldn’t have any more. When she was 7 months old I found out I was pregnant again, due any day now. People think we are mad but I’m very happy.

How about not trying/not preventing for a while to take the pressure off? Yes,,you got lucky but that doesn't mean you won't get lucky again. Plus you know what worked now.

If you are not ready, I think you can afford to wait a bit. Age is on your side....

Waiting until your first is a year let's your body recover. I didn't get my periods back until 15 months and conceived the following month (by accident I admit)

Took 3 years to conceive DD1 with PCOS, we tried for just 3 cycles before getting pregnant with DD2!! So we have a just 2 year old & an 8 week old I’ve heard of a lot of women with pcos getting pregnant much quicker the second time round. Also, my periods didn’t returned till DD1 was 9 months as I was EBF.

It’s totally up to you, obviously. But if it were me I’d enjoy DS & start trying after he turned 1! Good luck