Desperately seeking help..

[Maz8]

I will try to keep this as short as possible, sorry.
Partner and I have been ttc for 19 months and had 11 chemical pregnancies ( all around 5 weeks ) had all test done no medical reasons.
Truth is im just not coping very well mentally atm with it :( I know the next step will prob be ivf but it scares me so much :( here to make friends and offer/get support from people who may be in the same situation.

Normally I am the happiest go lucky person ever, but I dont seem to be able to regain my spark after our last attempt ( two weeks ago )
Aby help, advice, success stories literally anything anyone would share will help. I just want people to talk to who arent going to pity my situation x

I have felt your pain. We tried for a long time before discovering IVF was our only answer. We now have 2 lovely children from IVF and I am sitting in an IVF waiting room trying for number 3. I remember feeling your despair all too well and sitting here in this waiting room brings it all back so I know exactly what you’re going through. There are so many positive stories like mine that got me through when I was in your position so please know that there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel x

Hi Maz that's heartbreaking to be so close but then so far tome after time.

Are you going to do embryo testing with the IVF?

It sounds like you don't have a problem getting pregnant, more staying pregnant.

What have they advised you on how IVF will assist with that?

Hey guys, thank you for your kind words. I cant even tell you how much I appreciate it.. I honestly have no clue about ivf yet, we were told to try for a few more months ( about 8 months ago ) then to come in and we can talk about the option of ivf..so, and im not proud to admit it.. ive just completely ignored it and just hope and pray it will just work without all that.. rather silly I know :(

Have you tried baby aspirin? My friend was having multiple early miscarriages until she started taking that.

Yeah, I tried asprin for months :( didn't help at all thank you though x

@Maz8 there are steps you can take before IVF and the consultant will talk you through your options. I'm now in recurrent miscarriage testing following 3 MCs last year and the consultant has been great talking is through the different things we will try. Don't get me wrong, it's horrible to be in this position, but for me, having a plan with my doctor has really helped rather than going month to month, Hope then being let down. I wish you all the luck and hope that you find the strength in coping with this very difficult TTC journey that we are all on.

Hi Maz. I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. My husband and I are currently in the middle of IVF, but I had a period where I really struggled to come to terms with it. Like yourself, I'm usually a happy and cheerful person, and really didn't know how to deal with the black cloud I seemed to be in. In the end I decided to see a fertility councilor, and it was the best decision I ever made - I saw her over skype once a fortnight, and having someone to talk to that didn't know me or my family meant I could be completely honest. Talking to a councilor wasn't something that I had ever imagined myself doing, but it really did make a huge difference. I just wanted to let you know that fertility councilors do exist, and that it may be something that you could think about? It really did save me. Wishing you all the best in your journey.