Husband infertile

[Emma6297]

My husband has been told he has very low sperm count due to issues with his testosterone therefore taking testosterone replacement which made him infertile. He offered to comely him off the treatment to try for a baby and make himself unwell, I said no as I had no desire for children and thought 'if it's meant to be it will happen naturally'

This was about 4 years ago, since then we always have unprotected sex and recently I have found myself wishing I fall pregnant, whenever someone I know falls pregnant I feel sad and jealousy us. However when I see a baby or child I have no maternal instinct whatsoever, when I look after nephews/nieces I don't want them to stay or feel like something is missing when they leave. But the thought of actually having a child to look after I hate it and don't feel like I want one. So it's like just craving to be pregnant and not actually have a child. It's weird and probably doesn't make much sense

I know what you’re saying. I’d like us to have a child, and would be delighted to be pregnant. I have no interest in children, otherwise. I’ve never had the urge for motherhood.
My husband has diabetes, which affects our chances. I had one pregnancy (which ended in miscarriage) after he’d been on a health-kick. I know we could do more to make it happen...
I was fine with it all before, but so many women my age are having babies... I can’t help comparing with those who gave birth at the age I had my loss.

Have you spoken to your GP? My husband has MFI due to low hormones and sees an endocrinologist. He switched from testosterone to another drug which increases his sperm count. Could you get this investigated? There surely should be an alternative treatment and he shouldn’t be off his testosterone. He should definitely see his GP to see what can be done as they may be able to help him.

Yes there is an alternative and he offered to come off his sustanon to try for a baby. The doctor did say there was a chance he would be ill again though so we both decided not to bother as neither of us felt the need. Like I say I still don't really crave a child, I don't wish I Had a child running around the house. And when children come to my house I am happy when they leave and can't wait for my house to back to being quiet. It's just when I see people getting pregnant I feel jealous.
I think it's a case of always want what you can't have.
Nice to know I'm not alone in this though

Hello darlin it seems you are feeling the same as me, reassuring to know someone gets where I'm coming from xx