Secondary Infertility

[Minibow]

Hi,

I'm desperate. I've never posted on any chat ever before but I really need to find people in the same situation as me. Before I totally lose my mind.

This is month 18 TTC #3. First bfp came after 5 long cycles (8 months) and became an early MC. Two months later we got pregnant again. Second baby was 5 months of relaxed TTC.

We've had all the tests. 'Nothing' is wrong.
Meanwhile I'm going out of my mind. I'm 37 now. Is it too late? And anyone got any advice on how to move on if it is?

Hi I'm in a similar situation had my first child after a miscarriage at 12 weeks and then since we started TTC nr 2 we ve had another 2 miscarriages and a ruptured ectopic- I'm nearly 36 and have just done a round of IVF and waiting for a frozen transfer - we decided time wasn't on our side and chances had been reduced by only having one tube. I would say however age is a major factor - when I had fertility testing 5 years ago I was in the normal range for everything - fast forward to 2019 and my egg reserve is lower than it should be and also when they collected my eggs during IVF 70% were poor quality x

Thanks for the reply.

When I had the tests they said it was all fine just that it sometimes can take longer when you're older. I think I need to actually see my results though.
The consultant never actual talked me through the numbers. Should she have?

@Minibow were these NHS tests?
She should have talked through them? What the NHS sees as "normal" a private clinic might see differently? All my tests came back normal and yet we ve been trying over 12 months now with nothing to show for it (and yet in the 5 months before my ectopic I got pregnant 3 times)
Did they test your husband as well? infertility testing can be very one sided and centred on women when actually more than 50% of infertility issues are male factor?
Nhs testing on hubbie showed morphology at 2% which is low but they said nothing wrong with that as he had a high count.....IVF clinic disagreed

These were private tests. We were both tested and they told my husband his sample was excellent. I can't remember the numbers but it was above what it should have been.

I have a copy of my results but no clue what they mean!

Surprised that they didn't give you feedback if they were private tests? I've had the full range of private and NHS over the years! 🤣
What tests did you have?
AMH - blood test
FSH - blood test
HSG/Hyscosy - dye injected into your tubes?
Uterine lining thickness and shape - done by ultrasound
Blood flow to ovaries - done by ultrasound
Follicle tracking - done by ultrasound
Maybe day 21 progesterone
Which clinic did you go to? X

The Women's Clinic.
Blood tests and hycosy, ultrasound.
All they seemed to say was everything was normal. I had a cyst on my ovary that has since burst. I had one polycystic ovary.
I had 21 day bloods again a few months later to double check after the cyst burst and it was all normal again. I don't have a copy of my second set of results.
I think I'll email them tomorrow now though! Im sure with a bit of googling I could figure it out.

I would also get your partner tested x

I’m in a similar position. Had DS after 18 months of relaxed TTC, i was 35. I was just about to get tested after going to the docs then we got pregnant. DH did get tested and all fine. Fast forward 4 years and no2 is not happening. I’m 40 this year. We are tracking using OPK sticks and I’m taking pregnacare conception (which I didn’t first time) but no joy. We are just about to embark it on a round of testing. First is bloods at ovulation time. I’m not sure what to expect as I never actually got tested first time as we got pregnant about a week before my appointment. I’m quite anxious about pulling back the curtain to reveal any fertility issues. I’m living in ignorant bliss at the moment.

Hi,
I'm in a similar position and finding it very difficult. I had a MC before I had my son, started ttc when he was 2, have suffered 2 further MC since then, the last was in 2016 and despite continuing to ttc haven't had a sniff of a BFP since. That makes it over 4 years ttc no 2 now.
Tests have come back unexplained which is very frustrating.
And in the middle of all of that I feel so guilty for this yearning for a second child. I have spent 2 thirds of my son's life desperate for another baby and I feel like he should be enough and feel so terrible that I can't reconcile myself with that. Also I know there are so many people who have no children at all and in that respect I am so lucky but it still isn't making it any easier.
We have been told that realistically we're probably looking at IVF although there is no reason we shouldn't fall naturally. I'm 33 which gives us a little more time, we're taking some time to decide and continuing to ttc in the meantime. I'm just not sure I can deal with the disappointment of it failing.
So sorry to all you ladies who are also going through this. It really is crap.

It.is indeed utterly crap.

Today I have decided to give up. I'm.going to try and let go of the idea of another baby and focus on what I've got.

It's going to be hard but this is utter torture..I can't do it anymore xx

I feel for you @minibow I have DS who is nearly 4, I'm 38 and we have unexplained infertility. We just did one cycle of IVF and though my AMH levels were really good my eggs weren't great quality. This is something they can only tell through IVF really. I am not giving up yet I have said 2019 is the year to throw everything at it and then will reconcile myself if nothing has happened