Af after hyscosy

[Zara84]

Hi ladies,

I have been ttc for 2.5 years now- and have had various blood work, internal scans, hycosy most recently all which have come back as clear.
I had made myself believe I would fall this month following the hycosy but af has arrived this morning...Husband SA is also all normal.

I just don’t know where we go from here? IVF is something we have spoken about but with nothing medically wrong at the moment will it help?

Anyone been in a similar situation? What were your next steps ?

I haven’t been to in your exact situation as we have diagnosed MFI, with a 25% chance of falling pregnant naturally over 12 months, compared to 90% for general population. We qualified for IVF on NHS. IVF would ‘help’ you in the same way it helped us - you are guaranteeing fertilisation ( getting the taxi to the door my DH calls it) and giving the best possible chance of implantation.

However, IVF is a marathon not a sprint. A fertilised embryo does not = baby. I was 33. We had a good response - 16 foliclles, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature/normal, 10 fertilised (with ICSI so the strongest sperm) and 4 made it to Day 5. I had a great lining each time. Our fresh transfer (graded 5AB) failed; our first FET (graded 3AA) miscarried. Our third (andva bit of a ‘fucked it’ transfer as I was waiting for further private tests because I felt I needed to DO something) resulted in the most perfect 5 day old sleep thief in my arms right now.

It’s emotional and tough and will push you to the limit, but as long as you go in eyes open. Everything is magnified ie you know you are pregnant very early so MC are that bit much harder to deal with. There will be bumps in the road. You will be robbed of the innnocence of a natural pregnancy and will constantly worry about your baby.

I wish you all the best whatever your decision

Thanks Blondie your post just made me tear up a little.... I honestly believe it will happen somewhere in me I have this deep faith that it will happen... I am just so afraid of being left childless....your story gives me hope...I have a meeting with my consultant at the end of March and will definitely be talking IVF.

We did all the tests nothing wrong with either of us... Unexplained infertility which is so hard to take. I kept thinking we should keep trying as there was nothing wrong but as the months continued and not a single sniff of a BFP we did IVF. I was so worried that they would discover something terrible during IVF but our results were pretty good, 8 eggs, 6 fertilised, 5 5day embryos, one transferred but sadly ended MC which is a killer after fertility treatment. Hopefully doing a FET next month. I'm so glad we did IVF it was manageable for us, I mostly found it easy but I know everyone is different. I didn't want to to waste month after month if trying naturally. I found reading up on IVF and listening to fertility podcasts to normalize it so it was less scary. Good luck

Thanks Lilly - I will definitely research more
On IVF -hoping for a miracle for everyone trying.. it is the most difficult thing anyone can go through..thanks for your response.