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At a loss

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Pinktruffle · 20/01/2019 19:13

I know a lot of people are probably in this situation but I am losing all hope and motivation.

DH and I have been trying for a baby since we got married in August 2017. I'm 35 going on 36, he's 35. I've been diagnosed with PCOS but have known I've got it since I was 14. Clear HSG. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks for my first and only pregnancy at the end of October. Good news is that I conceived naturally. We have begun trying again and no look so far. Doc has prescribed me Letrozole (instead of Clomid) and told me to start taking it from March. I know I've not tried it just but I have a real fear I may never get pregnant and the only chance I had at having a baby, I lost.

I feel unhappy with so many aspects of my life. My job is stressful and I think it's interfering with my chances of conceiving but we need the money so I can't just quit. I'm looking for other work and just can't find anything. I just feel like running away from everything. I don't know if it's the miscarriage and the failure to get pregnant again that's making me feel like this or if I really have just had enough of it all.

Both my sister in laws are either currently pregnant or just had babies, both will have 2 each very soon and I feel inadequate around them and well, everyone at the moment. It feels like everywhere I turn someone is announcing a pregnancy. I feel like a failure that doesn't function properly and so angry at myself for being in this situation.

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DontCareBear · 20/01/2019 19:50

Hi @pinktruffle sorry to hear you are going through this. My husband and I have also been trying since 2015 with no luck, not even one positive pregnancy test. We have finally agreed to start IVF next month. We didnt want to but I feel like we have no option. I am 31, he is 38. His sperm is fine, I have polycystic ovaries though not diagnosed with PCOS as my hormones all seem to be normal. I have been on metformin since Sept with no luck. I totally understand how you feel. You try to do everything you can and every month there is nothing to show for it while all your friends and family get pregnant seemingly soon after making the decision to start a family. Some of our friends are even onto their 3rd now!

I am sorry I have nothing positive to say. It's shit. Maybe time to consider IVF too?

Good luck xx

Pinktruffle · 20/01/2019 20:02

Thank you. Good luck to you and your husband too.

I don't think my Doc will consider IVF yet, they want to review me in May, and to try the Letrozale first which I do want to try. IVF is expensive and money is not something we have a large supply of at the moment

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