Hi All.
I will keep it as brief as i can.
History - Me 34, OH 55 we have a beautiful 3.5 son together. He was our 4th attempt of IVF after 2 miscarriages, twin pregnancy (lost one in 1st trimester) and premature birth.
We decided to have one more go. Not because we wanted another baby as such, but more so a sibling for our boy. Lots of other reasons, particularly surrounding OH age and when he goes i dont want me being a complete burden on my son. My son would love to be a big brother, it would suit him. Loves babies and has the type of personality to thrive even more being a sibling.
We had a cycle in November, it failed miserably, not even reaching fertilisation. I believe the clinic were at fault, i put a complaint in and eventually 'as a good will gesture' they said i could have a few freebies (a scratch and embryoscope)
So we were all set to start on my cycle next month, then OH goes to work on Monday, and his overtime has been cut as its January, its too quiet.
So this has stalled us in going forward in treatment.
Doing this cycle would make us up to our eyeballs in debt. With OH overtime, it would have meant we could afford to pay more than minimum payments on our debts. Now, who knows.
Im so torn and its quite simply doing my head in. I know by us doing this will massively overstretch us.. massively. We have our biggest debt (the car) ending in November so that will help us out but i cant wait until then to do treatment.
Someone tell me they would do the same in my shoes... that they would go with their heart and not regret a thing than go with their head and forever think what if??