Infertility
Completely infertile DP
Wondering333 · 29/12/2018 23:35
When I got together with my DP I knew he ‘couldn’t have children’. He said he’d been for tests with his ex. My q is whether a man can be completely infertile (as opposed to less fertile)? And, yes, I know I can talk to my DP about this, and I can ask before committing if I want children. But I just wanted to know tour experience
Fleabag123 · 29/12/2018 23:39
There is a medical condition called azoospermia where the testes do not produce any sperm at all. My friend’s H has this, they conceived with donor sperm and have some stored so they can have a related sibling should they choose.
Good luck with your talk
Superpooper · 29/12/2018 23:40
Yes. It can be caused by chemo, surgery, mumps and a whole load of other things. Google it 
do you not believe him?
FuzzyPixel · 29/12/2018 23:44
Hi, my DH has azoospermia. There are two variations; obstructive and non-obstructive.
If the diagnosis is obstructive azoospermia, then sperm may be found using an extraction procedure. There is a procedure called an epididymovasostomy, which (in some cases) can repair reasons for obstructive azoospermia.
Non-obstructive azoospermia is different, and means there's usually an issue with production of sperm.
A man can have both obstructive and non-obstructive azoospermia at the same time, just different reasons on each teste.
Best wishes.
Wondering333 · 29/12/2018 23:45
Thanks fleabag
Yes, I believe he has been told he can’t conceive. But I don’t know how black and white that is. I can google - and have - but the internet throws up an awful lot of things so I was interested in the expertise and views of those on here.
FuzzyPixel · 29/12/2018 23:48
Happy too help.
It's emotionally difficult. We struggled with it for a while, my DH especially.
Wondering333 · 29/12/2018 23:49
For clarity -I’m not trying to catch DP out. I would just like to know more about it from those who’ve experienced it before I chat to him more.
Lauren83 · 30/12/2018 04:36
I came on to say what fuzzy said but she has already given great advice, do check if he has interpreted what he has been told correctly though as he may have been told he has no/little chance of a natural conception but could with IVF with ICSI, I also had to have the chat with DP early on as I was told I would only have children with donor eggs and had already had 4 failed IVF cycles before I met him, luckily he was great about it and we did have a donor egg IVF cycle which worked (and then a natural miracle 8 months later but that's another story!)
Kneesbend · 30/12/2018 09:09
My DH has azoospermia caused by raised hormones and mumps as a child. If his hormones were low they would have been able to raise them but they can’t do the reverse.
We tried SSR (surgical sperm retrieval) under sedation but the results showed no sperm at all, not even a single one for us to try...completely infertile.
He was CRUSHED. It took counselling and so many tears for him to understand and it was incredibly hard for his parents to understand the grief we had to endure. Even now, with a DD conceived by donor sperm and donor egg the in-laws refuse to discuss it. Maybe they blame themselves. I don’t know.
AniSL · 30/12/2018 09:12
My DH had two semen sample tests 4 months apart, not one sperm in either sample, he had the hormone tests which came back normal and then had a US testes scan which came back with no instructions, every thing was where it was meant to be. He was told he was azoospermic and had no chance of conceiving a biological child. Fast forward to treatment in Europe and we had TESE with donor sperm as a back up, three frozen vials of DH sperm and perfect 4AA 5 day blasts on ice of my DH biological potential children
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