1 miscarriage and 14montha of TTC no success

[Mannall22]

Hi all I posted the below on conception and it was suggested it may be helpful to post here so I thought I’d add.

So my husband and i started TTC June 2017 i then had a miscarriage November 2017 and still haven't managed to conceive now august 2018.

Although it hasn't been a year since the miscarriage we have still had 14months of our journey and its safe to say its really taking its toll on both my husband and I.

I have had all my bloods done and all fine and when i had my scan after miscarriage they said tubes etc all ok and i have regular period and ovulation. My husband has had hormones checked and sexual health check all fine and now waiting for a sperm test but the doctor has said as we conceived reasonably quickly before she would be shocked if a sperm problem which is reassuring.

Not sure why I'm writing on here but just feel at a total loss. Since TTC my three closest friends have got pregnant, my sister and my sister in law so i have no escape really tough i also hate being the person to look miserable when they are so happy!

Any tips on how to deal with it being all around you or what we can do to help speed up the process.

Hi @mannall22 just wanted to say your not alone. We had a MC just under a year ago and nothing since but been TTC for almost 3 yrs now. Sorry for your loss it’s heartbreaking isn’t it? I really don’t have much advice / tips as you seem to be doing the right thing with your investigations but I’ve found throwing myself into something else other than just TTC is the best thing for me. We’ve got a holiday booked as well as other things coming up to focus on until we get our IVF date. It’s less stressful and helping our heads while we wait on the next step. I’m similar to you also, all 3 of my sisters have kids and another is approaching her due date. She seems to have kept a distance lately but that’s helpful for self preservation and works for me? My 4 friends have kids and all they talk about and another has invited me to a baby shower which I’m not going to attend tbh!
It’s really hard and I know exactly how your feeling but hopefully we will get our babies soo too! We can all live in hope I suppose!
Xox

Hi we have been trying since July 17 and have had 2 miscarriages in that time. It’s so so hard when it feels like everyone around you is getting pregnant and you are not. My gp won’t do anything to help us as even though we have been trying for over a year they say because we have conceived we are not classed as infertility and also they won’t do anything about the miscarriages until it’s been 3 so feel like I am just stuck here and it’s so frustrating 😩

It’s hard, isn’t it. It took us 3 years to get DD1, including two miscarriages, and I was giving up hope. At one point it seemed like the whole world was pregnant except me. All I can suggest is trying to distract yourself with hobbies and fun things.