Want to support my sister

[Stephanie93]

My sister and I have both wanted children since we were very young. We are in our mid-teens now and my sister, 2 years ago got married to the love of her life. They have been trying to conceive for over 2 years now and have since found out that her partner has little to no sperm. He is currently on Clomid which I have heard can have some great results.
However, during the process of this journey so far, they are having difficulty with getting results back, getting calls or responses back when requested and prescriptions – which has slowed the process up as they didn’t provide him with enough tablets for the duration he needed to be on them. This causes my sister a lot of stress.
I wanted to know whether this is normal in these sorts of circumstances. I never know what to say or how to respond to her as this makes her so angry, but I want to be able to support her. She feels very alone in this journey. The way she feels during this journey is stopping her going to baby showers or holding new born babies, which is completely understandable, but I want to be able to help her on how to deal with what she is going through, but I feel anything I say is the wrong thing to say.
Is there any advice I can get on this?

You sound like a nice caring sister!

I think it’s good that she’s not putting herself through potentially upsetting things like baby showers. I have steered totally clear of my friends with babies while doing my fertility treatment and I think that’s fine. Avoid the torture!

In my experience there are always delays... things always took three times as long for us as we thought the would... and there are always admin problems / holdups to contend with... it would be better if she can try to accept that this is often just how it goes, and try to chill a bit.

But really, there won’t be much advice you can give her... she may even find it irritating if people are telling her she should be doing this/feeling that... better to just let her know you are there for her, hold her hand (literally and/or metaphorically)... I think that’s all you can do really. Good luck!