So excited and I just need to tell someone!

[jemimafuddleduck]

Ok - so maybe it won't be exciting to others but we have confirmed today we have our first appointment with the fertility clinic on 22nd August.

For background - we have only been TTC for around 10 months but I felt fairly early on that something wasn't right, so I went to the GP who ordered tests, which have shown I have a high FSH level (17.4). All other tests including SA are normal which is positive, but obviously with such a high FSH I have been quite anxious and keen to get on with things. I know it's possible to fall pregnant naturally but very unlikely.

We have had a fair wait to actually get our appointment with the clinic and it's really been stressing me out, so I'm SO HAPPY that we finally have a date!

DH is telling me not to get too ahead of myself but I just feel that at least now someone will be able to tell us what our options are. From my basic research it seems that egg donation will be the way forward. Does anyone have experience of high FSH/egg donor IVF?

No one in RL knows we're TTC and DH is being v cautious about it all (Not one to get excited at the best of times) so I've posted here because I'm just desperate to talk to someone about it.

Good luck for your first appointment jemima!

We were on a thread together on the conception board a while ago... I think we both kind of disappeared after the influx of BFP's!

I don't know much about the road ahead in terms of appointments and help etc but so glad to hear you are getting somewhere!!

I got diagnosed with PCOS a couple of months ago and I have my final blood tests on Friday to confirm that I'm not ovulating.
Hoping I will be referred or prescribed clomid etc

Just thought I'd say hi 👋 😊 fingers crossed for us both! X

@Rmad6716 Hi!! Yes I do remember I started that thread and then it just became too depressing.

How do you feel about being diagnosed? I was weirdly quite relieved when they found my issue because at least now I know what I'm working with, if that makes sense?! I am ovulating so that's definitely positive but the amount of eggs I have left is very low and I have a feeling they're not great quality although hopefully the clinic will be able to tell me more.

How are you dealing with everything? I started that thread thinking that I'd get my bfp within a couple of months and now I look back and think how stupidly naive I was.

I've always had a gut feeling I would struggle when ttc but didn't think it would actually be a reality.

How old Are you OP?

My fsh was 12 when I was 34. I was also referred to the fertility clinic for ivf and told it was “unlikely” I would get pregnant naturally.

However, I’ve been pregnant 3 times since then and had 2 live births (2 natural conceptions and 1 ivf) so don’t be so sure you can’t conceive naturally.

Also on egg quality- there is no test in the world which can tell you if your eggs are good quality or not. Egg quality is determined by age and even then it’s just an assumption.

Hi @Chattycat78 Thanks for your message. I'm 32. Can I ask, did you have your ivf baby first or your naturally conceived babies? Did the clinic treat you as a priority due to your fsh?

Actually I did think there probably wasn't a test for egg quality, not really sure why I wrote that 🙈 I think the next test for me is amh which I think determines how many eggs you have left, is that right?

Yeah you need the amh test. My amh was 2.8 (very low) so it matched the high fsh.

I got pregnant naturally first but unfortunately it didn’t work out. Then I did the ivf, which unbelievably worked first time. When the ivf baby was 9 months old I got pregnant again naturally.

You’re still young- your eggs are probably still pretty good even if you don’t have that many of them.

Thanks. That's what I'm hoping!

Hi @jemimafuddleduck ,

My FSH was 11.8 age 31. My AMH was 8 (which is bottom 5% for my age) but I had a "reassuringly good" antral folllicle count on first scan (not sure of number)

We'd been trying a year and were told to go straight to ICSI because my husbands counts were low too.

We got loads of eggs and surprised them all - 20 on cycle 1 and 22 on cycle 2 but then we had a quality issue (which they couldn't say if sperm or eggs) so had no good quality blasts on cycle 1. Cycle 2 we surgically removed DH sperm which made the difference and I'm 15/40 pregnant and have 2 frozen embies too.

Don't assume you'll go straight to donor eggs - FSH isn't very accurate and AMH and AFC will give you a better idea. Fingers crossed they're good for you - I agree with chattycat age is on your side - just need to get those eggs!

Good luck

And even if you do ivf and don’t get many eggs, that still doesn’t mean it can’t work. I only got 2 eggs in my ivf attempt because of my rubbish amh- but one still became and embryo and stuck! Quality of eggs is far far more important.

Thanks @hoping2018 and @Chattycat78

Fingers crossed for good quality eggs!

I know it sounds stupid, and maybe I'm just being a negative nelly, but I've just always had a feeling that something wasn't right and when the time came to ttc I'd struggle. My mum had issues conceiving as well.

I'm just kicking myself because we waited and waited (for a long time I wasn't sure whether I wanted children) and now we're trying it's not happening!

Congrats on your pregnancies