I’m feeling so depressed after misscarriage

[Bubs1993]

I’ve only just joined this and never posted before. I’m starting to feel like I’m running out of people to speak to as they aren’t hearing the same things all the time ..

I had my misscarriage 6 months ago now I was 8 weeks and it was the most destroying thing I’ve been through. We have been ttc for 2 years and I am still bursting into tears and feel so crap all the time. I just want to feel normal but I think I’m sacred to feel normal because I don’t want to forget that child even though some people say I was only early it still hurts and it was still my chance to become a mum.

I don’t know what I am to get from this thread to be honest I just feel like I need to talk/write how I am feeling I could go on and on and on 😩

Hello I am sorry about your loss and although I have not suffered a miscarriage I can't imagine having it after trying for so long when you think that is never going to happen for you.I have been trying 21 months and I feel depressed most of the time specially thinking about the next step which is IVF. Xx

Hi OP. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Just because you were eight weeks' pregnant, it doesn't make it any less upsetting. Of course it still hurts, and I don't think you'd ever forget that loss.

I was in a similar position and just passed what would have been my baby's due date.

Do you think speaking to a bereavement counsellor might help you? Or perhaps the Miscarriage Association? They have a helpline you can call if it would help you.

I'm sure others will be along soon to offer better advice, but just wanted to offer a hand hold.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I think people are saying to you that it was early because they don't know what else to say. Miscarriages are common but can be devastating. We don't talk about them and so many people find it really difficult to know what to say, which can make things feel so much worse.

I started to get to grips about infertility and my second chemical pregnancy with the help of a counsellor. It didn't stop the feelings I had, just gave me a better understanding of why I was feeling the way I was.

I'd highly suggest you start being kinder to yourself. If your grief is taking my over your life, it might be worth a trip to the gp. I started antidepressants for awhile during infertility and I'm pretty sure they saved my life, but there may be other things you could try.

These boards are a lifeline for discussing your feelings too.

And then of course there are charities and associations out there where people have experienced this and DO know what to say, unlike friends and families.

Hugs. It's really shit.