Demented Inbetweeners Starting Out!

[thisisouryrfx18]

Thought id start a thread for everyone whos at the awkward inbetween stage, that consists of being pissed off by the never ending bfps on the conception boards and not being officially classified as infertile. Me and my OH are currently going through investigations bloods have came back normal soo far and so has SA but 3yrs into ttc and we still have no baby!😣 So feel free to join if u want a rant a hand hold or just want to cheer one another up x❤

I should add any tips on the best way forward would be appreciated x

Can I join you please?

Im 25, 8 months TTC #1 (irregular cycles and no confirmed ovulation)

I have PCOS & only had 3 cycles this year 😞. Had CD 1-4 bloods done so far this cycle and getting my day 21 done on the 10th. Doctor and myself don't think I'm ovulating so I feel in limbo now... not sure what's happening or what the way forward is.

In the meantime I'm trying to exercise, cut out all PCOS worsening foods from my diet and taking carefully researched supplements. Here goes nothing!

We are on CD 12 of SMEP - it's our first cycle trying it - again may be pointless if I'm not ovulating.

Of course welcome! @Rmad6716 im soo glad sumbody joined lol just wish we were talkin in better circumstances x im not convinced i ovulate either i had my bloods taken a wk before my period and they said my hormone levels were normal. I think the problem is i dnt ovulate every mnth so im goin to get a docs appt and ask them to repeat my bloods. Can they not put u on clomid or something to make u ovulate?

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Hey! Never seen this!

I have no idea tbh, I'm just waiting on the second set of bloods to confirm. Feeling impatient today. We are trying SMEP and it's quite an effort to be all for nothing if you know what I mean lol?

The nurse that took my bloods was a bit bitchy and said that even if I'm not ovulating I'll need to come back after 18 months. Surely that can't be right!? I really want to try clomid so at least I feel like I have a Chance each cycle.

It's horrible isn't it? It's just the waiting about and not knowing

@Rmad6716 yh we ve tried it for a gd few cycles its hard if u both work fulltime etc and ur tired..im not sure how long ud have to wait tbh but she shouldnt b commenting shes not a doc not her decision sum ppl r total jobsworths. I would say if ur not ovulating then theres a clear problem with a clear solution so id push for it and see what ur doc says, i think its the only time u get anything done on the nhs lol

Hello! I probably fit into this box too.... 8 months ttc but no signs of ovulation and last year I had an ovarian torsion where one of my Fallopian tubes tied itself into a knot so it’s possible I only have one working tube as they don’t know if it was damaged..... I was told to ttc for 6-9 months before going back so last week I went to the doc and I’ve got my first appt with the hospital on 10/09.

The hardest thing so far is the sadness and the anger. My best friend is pregnant, which she managed without even trying and the last of my husband’s friends announced their pregnancy last week. I’m overcome with bitterness towards them as she has been getting drunk whilst knowing she was pregnant and in my head she doesn’t even deserve this baby. I’m also gutted as I feel like the one thing a woman is supposed to be able to do is have children and my stupid body can’t even do that. I have no idea what to do with all these feelings as my OH doesn’t get it and I don’t want to make friends with babies feel uncomfortable. I also totally don’t want to have sex cos it seems pointless if there’s no chance of conception so things are a bit of a mess at the moment!

@GiraffeMomma I feel ya!

I will be gutted if it doesn't happen this month as I've tried to stay positive and keep DTD even though I to think it's probably pointless. I have my day 21 blood test on Friday so fingers crossed I'll get a definite answer about whether I'm ovulating or not so we can move forward with some help.

It really does suck. I was terrified about my niece arriving because I was scared I'd get into a really low place mentally but it's been the opposite and I love her so much, been great to spend some precious time with her. I have been in your position though and there really is no shaking the feelings. I just suddenly snapped a bit when I realised there's nothing I can do with TTC to have control. Which I struggle with. Everything else almost in life we have a say in but sadly not when we will get pregnant unless we are super lucky. It has made me more excited about having my own baby to hold but at the same time scary thoughts creep in along the lines of 'what if we never get there' etc.

My goal now is to keep trying to be positive and enjoy our life together and stick to the path of getting healthy and doing all I can to help us conceive. If I don't I'll just be a mess. I started antidepressants around 8 weeks ago and I really think they have helped me through.

. Fingers crossed for us xx

Welcome @GiraffeMomma ! @Rmad6716 can i ask what anti d s ur on i feel like i need to go back on mine but im worried how itd effect ttc x

@thisisouryrfx18 it's fluoxetine I'm taking. 20mg a day. The doctor researched before giving me it and said it's supposed to be one of the safest for TTC x

@Rmad6716 thanks thats gd to know if i need it..im trying to exercise eat healthy etc to keep my mood up but its bloody hard isnt it?

@Rmad6716 sorry to hear you’re in a simar position 😢 I’m glad you were ok when your niece arrived, I think I’ll be ok with my best friend’s baby, if anything I’m worried I’ll be too over the top 😬

I will keep my fingers crossed for you for this month, hope the antidepressants start to do their job soon too. Staying positive is so incredibly mentally draining when there’s reminders everywhere all the time but we must persist, or like you say, we’d go mad!