We tried for a baby for 2 1/2 years. I fell pregnant after nearly 2 years & suffered a loss under traumatic circumstances. It traspires we wont have another without ivf due to the trauma caused when i lost the baby & dh has low morphology & motility. The baby we lost was a miracle that we ever conceived given his results. I've grieved & stuggled so much & was just getting life back on track when i was told we needed ivf to conceive again. Needless to say this has all changed me & i work hard to pretend to live a normal life. When we found out about ivf, we both commited to no alcohol, caffeine & healthy life. We were both very healthy eaters anyway & im big into understanding nutrition. Anyway, a few days ago i lost the plot at finding out a close family member is pregnant & we have to see her next week & during my meltdown said i couldnt cope / wouldnt see family member. Dh called me selfish, we argued & he has been drinking each evening since. We are now on day 3 oh heavyish drinking (just in the evening). Am i unreasonable to feel broken that he has done something that may affect our ivf chances? I feel so hurt.