DH can't finish anyway do what's the f*cling point

[AliceScarlett]

Sorry for swearing just can't stop crying.

1st cycle of Clomid. Tried to DTD tonight again and he just gets so stressed that he can't produce the goods.

So sick of this endless suffering for no benefit. He's miserable and has gone to bed and now it will be be just even more of a pressure tomorrow. We take a week off and it makes no difference.

I try to be as calm and chill as I can, but I just hopeless. What is the point of TTC on Clomid after 2.5 years if we can't actually have sex.

So sick of this shit.

Oh its horrendous isn't it. You just want the job done and they decide for the first time in there lives they need to be wooed!!
My husband was like this TTC.
Have a bath, forget about it and maybe set the alarm half hour early tomorrow and do it when you are both chilled and half asleep!
And cut yourself some slack. It will be okay.

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We had this problem too, it's called Delayed Ejaculation and it's a recognised issue like Premature Ejaculation.

I completely understand the anger and frustration and I am sure you know that if you express those emotions you'll just make the problem worse.

My 2nd dc was conceived with the cup and syringe method as my dh could manage to ejaculate in a cup in the bathroom on his own.

Can you talk about it together during the day when you're both calm? There are options but it won't necessarily be an day conversation to have!

(Have name changed to protect dh's identity)

Thanks ladies,

Amazing name change cantcum 😅

We have in the past gone with the syringe method, needs must. Just tend to use it as a last resort.

Yes I am trying to be calm. Just SO frustrating. Hate the atmosphere and stress it causes too. Makes me wonder if this is all worth it.

Another cup and syringer! Not sure if that’s what did it but we were trying for DD1 for a year and it got stressful for us both. At about 6-7 months we started doing that, alternating it with actual sex- and were doing it when she was conceived. Acupuncture, I think, also worked for us.

Sorry OP, it’s and shit time. And if it makes you feel any better DD2 was a happy surprise. I’m sure it’s because we werent worrying about it.

Amazing name change cantcum

Thanks. I like it so much I might keep it 😂

Ha, do it!

While we're on the subject of syringes... Don't you find you get air bubbles in it and it dribbles out half the time? #gross

We used a Calpol syringe cause it's flat at the end so less chance of doing yourself an injury...

Did you keep it warm in the cup for 10 mins so that it liquefied? Bubbles aren't really a problem cause you're not injecting into your blood stream it's going up the old fandango.

Ahh liquidity sounds good. I think when I suck it up it bubbles because it's not smooth. Ok. Good shout.

It's best kept at body temp for 10 mins. I tucked the cup into my cleavage and got DH to read me excerpts from saucy novels whilst we waited... mainly cause it made us laugh and took the edge of what is actually a pretty miserable situation.

Whilst trying to concieve my daughter. My husband at one point faked an ejaculation lol 😂 as he ‘felt like he was under too much pressure to perform’ In the end I decided to stop telling him when I was fertile and would just seduce him during those days.