Timing isnt great but it has to be now

[Maltesers84]

So, Hubby has just sprung it on me after booking a holiday for next year, that he now wants another baby (ive wanted another since my DS was born nearly 3 years ago)
Because we will do egg sharing, and i am nearly 34, its not something we can hold off as the age cut off is 35.
I had my DS at nearly 34 weeks, my waters started leaking and so i was induced.
Im trying to time my cycle so that i will be (if im lucky enough for it to work) pregnant when we are due to go away, aiming for around 30 weeks but as i will be consultant led, is there a chance he may not let me go??
Im happy not to go if this is the case but i wont know about my son. I could, let him go with my hubby and adult stepson, but i dont know if i can be without him for that long (10 days) and although i trust my hubby with my son (obviously) i dont know if im comfortable enough for him to have him for such a length of time without me. On the flipside, if i keep DS with me, i would be seeing him out of a holiday....

Hi, I don't have experience with egg-sharing but I don't think you should let a holiday determine when you hope to get pregnant. Rather than worrying about the holiday just focus on getting pregnant and deal with the holiday at a later date. Have you spoken to your hubby about the holiday? Sounds like he wants it all his way. Is the holiday fully paid for? Could you just suck up the cost of not going on the holiday?

I deffo agree about where my focus should be but i havent mentioned my husbands thoughts on the holiday so struggle to see how it comes across that he wants it his way
The holiday has half been paid for, so cancelling completely is an option, but i wanted to see at least my husband have a holiday. But i feel guilty for my son.
I mentioned it to my husband and he is pretty much wanting to cross that bridge as and when it comes.
Im not sure if i would be totally irresponsible to go on holiday in my 3rd trimester (potentially) when ive had a prem baby before.

Txx

Is the holiday abroad? Your consultant might discourage you from going due to what happened the last time and it is probably the safer option that you wouldn't go. Maybe you should let them all go and enjoy some peace and time to relax before another baby joins the family.

Good luck with the egg-sharing and I hope you get a BFP.

Yeah, its to Turkey. I will deffo follow the consultants advice if he suggests not to go. I could kill my hubby for telling me he wanted another after we booked this holiday!!
Letting my son go with them is something i will have to have a serious think about. I just dont think i could be away from him for that long!

Aww, thank you! I hope so too!

You need to have a "fit to fly" letter for most airlines, if travelling after 28 weeks. With a history of a previous premature birth, I suspect your consultant will refuse to write one, but I don't know for sure.

Thank you.

Im guessing that would be the case.

Im not bothered about going... its just my boy :-(

First time pregnancy here (IVF plus high risk for other reasons) and I’m just back from a holiday at 31/32 weeks. Only to Portugal though.

I just got really really really good insurance (Mama2Be by Ravenhall) and my GP was fine with it. (Despite being consultant led, I’ve never actually seen one. My consultant appts are always taken by junior docs or midwives. At the 30 week appt I saw a midwife and she said “get a fit to fly letter from your GP”.)

But as I said, 1st time pregnancy, so I didn’t have the issues you had with pre-term labour.

Could you go for 5 days? Get your own flight back half way through?

Congrats on your pregnancy!!!

My guess us that my consultant wont let me go, but its worth a think about either changing the destination to somewhere closer or like you say, me just go for 5 days ish... or both!!

Thank you for the congrats:)

It’s a shame if you aren’t allowed to go, but hopefully it’s early enough to make changes to the holiday plans.

More than that though, I hope it works out with the egg sharing and you get a BFP!!! Good luck!!

Honestly I'm with your husband on this one; worry about it when it becomes a problem. There's an awful lot of things that have to happen at precisely the time you're anticipating before that would become a problem, and if it did it would be a pretty nice sort of problem to have.