So I'm new to the world of mumsnet but I got some fairly bad news the other day and thought I would benefit from the wisdom of people who know more about fertility than me!
Me and my husband have been trying for over a year. Within months of coming off the pill I had a period that was 2 weeks late. Prior to going on the pill (I was only on it for a year) my periods had been like clockwork my whole life. I was extremely stressed at work so decided that was probably the reason. A couple of months later my cycle was 60+ days so I went to see the GP, told them I had just started ttc and was sent for some blood tests and an ultrasound scan. GP said everything looked fine and it was probably just stress. We carried on trying and I've had 18 months of irregular cycles ranging from 21 days to about 65 and everything in between. I went back to a different GP because I wasn't convinced I was ovulating every month but the month I did the 21 day progesterone test that also came back fine and my husband's sperm test was fine so she didn't refer us to a specialist and said keep trying. I lost patience after a few more months and went back to see a different GP who eventually agreed to refer us and we have an appointment with a consultant next week.
In the meantime, my mum mentioned this AMH test which I'd never heard of so I went and got it done privately and just got the result that my AMH levels are 0.6 - which I gather is really really bad considering I'm only 33 and otherwise healthy. From everything I've been reading it seems like I'll probably never have my own biological children which is really devastating, as if the thought of going through early menopause
. I specifically asked the last GP if I was going through early menopause and she assured me that I wasn't because my FSH levels would be loads higher. I can't understand how everything else could show as normal if my AMH is so low but I wish I'd found out sooner cause I wouldn't have spent all this time ttc naturally and probably in vain.
My sister in law has suggested using egg donors but I have no idea where to start with that, whether it's worth trying IVF with my own eggs or whether I can even have IVF on the NH with such low AMH levels. I also worry, cause me and my husband are both of African descent, that there won't be many black egg donors available which means the whole process will take longer.
I don't really know what to do with this new information. The internet is such a dangerous place of half truths! I feel so anxious about seeing the specialist next week but I'd like to be prepared so that I can ask the right questions and be engaged with any treatment plan. I would love to hear stories (good and bad - preparing myself for the worst here) from people under 35 who have also had very low AMH levels, premature ovarian failure, and/or gone down the IVF or donor egg route, including other ethnic minority ladies. I have a feeling that the journey we're about to embark on isn't going to be an easy one but overall I think it's better to know what we're actually dealing with. Knowledge is power right
.
Thanks in advance!