Gynaecology discharged me. Now what?

[CoconutGal]

So after almost 6 months of tests on myself, the gynaecology has discharged me. She said if DH wants his sperm tested then we need to be trying for another year. I don't think I'm mentally or emotionally prepared to keep having no luck. We're both young & healthy. Why is this happening? I've began losing weight in a bid to help, DH doesn't seem like he is remotely interested anymore. I'm beginning to think we shouldn't be doing this & we aren't ready. 😞

How long have you been trying for if you dont mind me asking? My husband was the same and put his head in the sand. Just found out today that 100% of his sperm are deformed so will have no chance of natural conception. We have been ttc for nearly a year. Glad we have been checked now so know where we stand.
Try and get him to face up to the fact that it could be him that is causing you not being able to fall. Good luck x

We've been trying for 18 months now. I thought this was supposed to be something we do together but the only part he's interested in is sex. I just feel deflated

So you had tests without your husband's sperm being tested? Seems a bit odd that way round since testing sperm is easier, cheaper and less invasive than testing the woman. It's usually the first thing offered to get it out the way.

Can you pay for it privately? Shouldn't be too expensive.

I tried looking on the net, I used Angus castus which worked for me with child 1. Afterwards I tried high concentrations of evening primrose oil which worked but sadly ended up in miscarriage (not unusual for me)

I always found losing weight helped so try getting active it really helps your biochemistry plus lose some weight if you're a bit over weight and put some on if you're a bit under weight

I also found that with my second we were actively trying not to have a baby as I'd just started a new job, albeit we kind of were a bit but I kept thinking wrong time ... that worked !!

Also, I would say that although 18 months is a long time and probably feels like forever, there is still a good chance you will fall pregnant. It just takes a long time for some people.

I got my dh tested privately - it was actually really easy to arrange and not that pricey (less than £100 I think)

@Onceuponatimethen where did you book for your DH's tests?

Thank you everyone for your reassuring replies. I was beginning to think we're hitting a brick wall.

Sometimes it just takes a long time. I'm naturally pregnant now and all going well, took us two years and 1 mc to get here.

Never got to the root of the problem, my hormones fine, DPs sperm fine, I had some ovarian cysts but they healed themselves after a few months. It's a mystery.

I was trying to google that you you. Think we did them privately at uclh- I think it was the Eastman DentL Hospital bizzarely where dh had to gon

Go!

Have you tried duofertility by the way? That worked for me and dh in the end as his fertility tests came back fine. Pricey and a bit faffy at first but I got used to the system and it did work (had x 3 pg using it of which 1 mc) - think they have an article showing it is as effective as ivf.

Your GP should be able to refer your H for sperm analysis? That's what mine did anyway!

Same Astrid and this was the very first thing they did for the reasons I mentioned above. Hence I was surprised that hadn't happened for the OP

I don't know why they didn't test DH first. It's only been now they've suggested he gets tested too