Baby bomb... :(

[ohbigdaddio]

So, just had the typical baby bomb text from my friend 30 minutes ago..."Guess what?", followed by scan photo...This is really out of the blue, she's only been married 5 minutes and it's always been a comfort to me when I've been feeling shit to think 'at least Jo isn't pregnant' (most of my other friends have babies), thinking I would be bound to have a baby before her.

I'm on my 2nd round of IVF at the moment, have no DC and have never even managed to get pregnant. So I'm sat here crying my eyes out wondering how I can be enthusiastic about her pregnancy when I am so upset for myself.

Anyone out there feeling like this today? Any kind words welcome, feel like I'm going to explode with sadness, jealousy and anger.

Its ok to feel all those things You're on a hard journey. My story is very different to yours so I don't think it would help. I hope this round of IVF works for you and to go with more you CAN survive this

Thanks FresasAndFrambuesas sometimes I wonder how I can go on...with IVF, and in my more down times, with life. I wouldn't ever do anything silly but you are right, this is so bloody hard!

Im sorry you are struggling. I cant cope either with pregnancy or birth announcements after the loss of my first and only baby daughter a year and a half ago. A lady at work earlier this morning, who has been really kind to me (and knows what I have been through) told me that her grand daughter was born last night. I really couldnt care less and I really didnt need to hear anything like this! Obviously I tried not to show my emotions to her. And obviously I feel so guilty for feeling jealous and angry. I wish life was fair.

So sorry to hear that CBrown80 People just don't get it do they? Xx

I feel the same way op. I've had 3 failed ivf cycles and am awaiting more tests before deciding what's next. It's horrible. I feel bitter and jealous all the time. It was my birthday recently and I ended up miserable and crying as I feel like my life is ruined by infertility. I read somewhere infertility is one of the only griefs that gets worse rather than better with time. As time goes on I just feel more panicked that it hasn't happened, that it never will. I keep thinking how unfair it is and I just can't understand why I've had the shit luck for this to happen to me. It's horrible, hang in there. .

So sorry you lost your dd cbrown. Can't imagine how hard it is for you. xx

I’ve been there. It’s a dark and lonely place to be. Never allowed myself to believe it would actually work. It did. You’ll get there. Stay strong. It’s absolutely ok to feel like shit too, I was astounded at how inconsiderate people could be when they knew how we were struggling.

I know it is difficult

@ohbigdaddio I totally get it too! It’s really hard infertility and having little people in your life who understands or relates is difficult too 💐
My sister dropped the bomb on the same day as my work pal last week..my work pal isn’t even trying 🙄 my SIL is due the same month as I would’ve been (I MC in October) and all my 3 sisters are on their 2nd & 3rd dc. My mum keeps telling me time is running out and I need to get a move on & (TMI warning) DP is so stressed out with it all he can’t rise to the occasion any more 😔 I don’t know what to do anymore. Got Gynae appt next week and happy things are moving again I’m just sick fed up with TTC that I’m thinking about going to counselling. It’s totally unfair but I’m praying for our happy ending that’s all I can do. Xox

I know exactly what you mean, I'm in a similar situation. My best friend didn't want to be my bridesmaid as she was ttc and would be due around my wedding day if she got pregnant. It didn't happen for her straight away and while she was trying it became all she could think of. My wedding came and went and she wasn't pregnant. Fast forward a couple of months, we met just before Christmas, (my first cycle had just failed) and she told me she had some exciting news, obviously I knew what she was going to say straight away, she was pregnant. Of course I was/am happy for her, but what hurt was when I told her my news, she changed the subject back to how she was feeling and her excitement. Needless to say I found it upsetting. A week later she sent me a scan picture, which at the time felt like a big kick in the teeth.
On one hand I want to support her, share her excitement, but on the other I don't want to hear about it and find I'm distancing myself from her.
I certainly don't want this to push us a part. It would just be nice if she was a more sensitive.
I don't really have any words of wisdom, but just to let you know, I understand exactly how you are feeling ohbigdaddio. Sending big hugs

Same here. I’m on my third IVF, and took an early test that seems to point towards yet another BFN. I hate life right now.

Stories of people sending scan pictures to those struggling with infertility give me the rage. I cannot understand how anyone could be so crass and insensitive.

In fact just don't send your scan pictures to anyone, ever. Who even cares apart from you and your partner?

for you op. Baby bombs are the worst. My DH best friend once rang us just after an ivf appointment to say his girlfriend of thirty seconds was pregnant. I could have happily chucked myself in the Thames.