TTC sex

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Hi. Sorry if I've posted in wrong place for this. DP and I TTC#1 for over 18 months.
I've had day 21 test and all ok. DP has had sperm analysis and count and motility is low. I've now got an appointment this week where I think we will be referred to the fertility clinic. I presume more tests at that stage.

I've said to my DP that I think we need to do DTD more often however since the news 're sperm he's struggling with the physical act now as it's on his mind and he feels under pressure. So I end up feeling frustrated as there's no chance of it happening if we are not even having sex.

Appreciate doing it for the sake of it is not sexy but I'm a bit of the mindset that needs must atm. We have talked about it and acknowledged that the pressure isn't helping but every month that goes by I feel a bit more desperate.

Has anyone any advice how to get through this stage and maybe help with anything I can do to try to take the pressure off him so we can just enjoy DTD again witnout it being about baby making?

Hi there, I hate to see a post going unanswered. Sorry to hear of your situation and don’t really have any answers for you. I was in a very similar situation and found it only really got better when we decided to seek help with fertility. Now the pressure is off dh and he knows that whenever we do have sex, it is because we want to, not because we have to. Sorry if this is not much help x

Thank you. I did think that in a way ie if we did go go down the ivf route then that side of things is dealt with separately so we can just do it when we want to and enjoy it. Thanks for your reply.