Missed miscarriage at 8wk scan

[Sarsparella]

We’ve just had our 2nd, and last ivf cycle. Got x2 BFP and I’ve had no symptoms to suggest anything had gone wrong but went for an 8 week scan today to be told there’s only a pregnancy sac but neither of the embryos have developed

I’m utterly floored, I’d had some cramping & felt a little sick but I’ve had no bleeding to suggest a miscarriage

Now we have to decide next steps, I can’t face going back to the hospital yet again but I’ll have to, this was our final chance and we’d pinned all our hopes on it

I'm so sorry to hear this. I just wanted to reply to offer my support as I know how heartbreaking it is to go through an MMC. It's such a shock when you've not had any signs at all. I am sorry to hear that this is your last IVF but you need to take the next few weeks to get through it and look after yourself. Do whatever you need to - cry, scream, eat lots of chocolate. Nothing will take the pain away but it will ease in time even though you may feel like everything is hopeless now.

Wishing you lots of luck for whatever you decide to do next.

Thank you bluebell that’s very kind of you to rely, I’ve been reading up this afternoon because I don’t think I was taking it in at the hospital earlier and it’s a blighted ovum that then causes an early miscarriage but because the sac grows that’s why I’ve had no symptoms of bleeding, it just feels so overly cruel that I still now have to go back to hospital for a procedure :(

Maybe I’m hoping beyond hope but I’ve been reading online lots of people having been told at an early 8 week scan that there was only a sac with no development but at 10-11 weeks a heartbeat was found - the hospital said they won’t make me have a procedure for 2 weeks so I know it’s v v unlikely but I’m going to ride it out as long as I can on the smallest chance

This happened to me after my first ivf cycle. I had a scan to confirm the following week at my local hospital.
I was devastated. We had been so excited by a positive test and I had felt unwell with no bleeding so it was a total shock. It took a long time to emotionally recover for me and it was a dark time for my relationship.
Take care of yourself. It’s ok to be sad or angry or numb or cry - everyone is different. Be kind to your partner too, they may grieve in a different way to you and that’s hard too. for you. There’s nothing anybody can say that will make it better.

@Sarsparella I'm sorry you're going through this. I've had a late loss, an early loss, a BFN, and finally my DD all IVF transfers. It's tough.

Why was this your last chance? You mean your last free cycle on the NHS or your last private cycle?

It’s our last NHS cycle, we can’t afford to go private and we’ve had two, I don’t think I can go through it again

Sorry posted too soon, I’m sorry for your losses AgainPlease, your DD must be such a blessing to you