How do you cope?

[Anyhope44]

Hi hopefully someone can give me some advice. I am 23years old am very lucky to have a 6 year old daughter. I am married and have been ttc for around 5years. About a year ago after years and years of going the gp with no help. I finally got told I have pcos and had a blocked tube which after trying to flush had to be removed. So I have 2 ovaries and one tube but have pcos , doctors have told me because I already have a child I have to self fund ivf I am looking into at the minute but seems prices are going to take me a good while to save for. In the mean time every day is a struggle everything on tv is baby baby baby every where I look someone is pregnant and I feel I cope with it all any more! I feel like a failure to my self and husband

Also non of family know about this and my twin sister is currently pregnant, I am trying not to be bitter put the daily conversation of her pregnancy and her baby this and that is causing me real pain :(

I'm not sure I'm qualified to answer this as I'm not sure I'm coping very well. But I can empathise - I just failed my first round of ivf (TTC #1) and the day I found out I failed was my sisters 3 months scan. She came round yesterday with my 3 year old niece who put her hand on my stomach and asked if I had a baby in my stomach too and I completely lost it. Fortunately my sister knows - and I guess my main advice would be to tell your family. You need the support, they need to know why you're not yourself and you will feel better for it I'm sure. I find it very hard to be around pregnant people and by telling those I'm close too at least they can understand why I'm not being myself in terms of support and interest in their children and pregnancies.

With regards to funding ivf - it's tough. The positives are you are young so no time limit and you know you can have a healthy child. Both huge positives I wish I had! Best of luck x

Thankyou both for your replies.... I know I do need to tell my family but I just find it really hard to say :( ... thankyou for giving me some positive on a day when I can not see it myself. Wishing you all the luck in the world x

I'm struggling as well. I feel very isolated. There's a great community for people ttc on instagram and that's really helped me decompress and say what I feel and have people to speak to.

I sympathise. We are the same age and I have a two year old. I’ve since had four miscarriages, been told I have endometriosis and a blocked tube.

I don’t know what to say other than I know how shit it is and I am so sorry.